Putting it all in prospective

Hi, Some of you may remember a post I made several months ago about my desire to leave my husband and about an affair. Well I wanted to share what is currently going on. I ended the affair a while back and realized that I was having an early mid-life crisis as a result of all the lost weight and the attention I was getting, I had told myself before my wls that I was strong enough and would not let it happen to me, but it did and the attention really sucked me in, several of you suggested I changed therapist and I want you all to know I have never been back to seen him again. I have talking my pyschiatrist who is going to get me in to see a new therapist as I realize I still have alot of self esteem issues. I got so sick and really thought I may die last week, and it has really made me stop and think about what is important in life and it certainly is not about being thin like I used to think......it is being healthly, and having people to love and people who love you back. I told my husband about my affair and it broke his heart but I had to let him know so that we can either start other or he can leave if that what he feels he needs to do. I did tell him that I did not want him to leave and that I was prepared to do whatever it takes to make our marriage work, I am blessed that he agreed a not leave and work on us, he is a very loving, caring, hardworking man. He realizes that there are issues between us that need to be addressed and he is willing to do it, I am going to get a new therapist to work on myself as well do marriage counciling. Sometimes I think people was judge me and say I am a hipocrit but thats okay because I can honestly say that being as sick as I was really did something to me emotionally and really opened my eyes about what matters in life. Just wanted to share as I have gained so much by reading others posts. Take care, Melissa

Melissa I do remember your post and I am very happy that things are going better and that you rook the time to come back and update us. I remember being very sad looking at the beatiful photograph of your family and then reading of your problems. Good luck to you and I hope you find what you are looking for.

Hi Lynda, Thanks for the kind response. Take care, Melissa

Glad to readthings are moving in a positive direction for you. It's a hard road at times we have to travel but you can do it. Debbie

Hi Debbie, Thanks for the support! Melissa

I remember that post too Melissa. I'm so glad to hear that things are working out for you. And going thru what you went thru or losing a loved one can certainly open your eyes to what's TRULY important in life! I also commend you for coming clean with your husband so you can have a new start~that took ALOT of guts! Good Luck to You! Tracy B 328/155 5'9"

Hi Tracy, Thanks for the response. It did take alot of guts for me to tell him but I knew I could not go on with the secret. Thanks again and take care, Melissa