Looking for help..

Hiya!! My name is Cherie...I am in Rochester. I have Healthnet and a secondary from DSHS. I was told yesterday that I am not covered for the Bypass surgery, it is in their contract not to cover. But, I found out this morning, it is morbid obesity from my doc. My doctor is referring me to Capitol Medical Center for the surgery. I just need some help from others who have been through this. I have severe rheumatoid arthritis in my knee and lower back and numerous other weight related problems. I have gotten and read tons of info on the surgeries available and know that i am looking at a long road to hoe, but I am desperate, I am 28 with 3 kids, and am getting to the point that my husband left us and we had to move to my parents because I just can't do much anymore..I used to be extremely active, I barrel raced, trained horses, had a home based business. But I just can't do anything anymore. Please help....