Flailing and asking for support

Thanks BearMom...I'm in Everett, WA.

Hi there, I'm in Marysville, WA and will be attending the group there the first Thursday of March. Do you want to come too and we can meet? I'm still pre-op but I'd love to meet you and help support you. This will be my first time at the support group so we could be newbies together. Here's the info:

First Thursday of each month 6-7 pm
Grandview Village*
5800 64th ST NE (near the Marysville YMCA)
Marysville WA 98270

*when you enter the lobby the staff will direct you to the meeting room

Whaddya say?

Hi Kelly,

I would love to meet you too! Are we allowed togive email addresses out on this site? I found that it is not notifying me of replies even though I checked the box for it. I can tell you for sure this time pre-op is good because it gives you a chance to work on the part of the problem that's between your ears. I think that's where I went wrong. I spent the last six months not using this tool. It is possible to end up having it be like exercize equipment that goes unused. I'm back on now and making progress though:)

Kristina

I'll send you a message with my email. If you don't get it, let me know!

Kristina,

You are not alone! I had RNY on 3/8/2010 at Puget Sound Surgical Center in Edmonds. I completed my 6 month supervised diet, required by insurance, at Pacific Nutrition and Wellness. My first support group meeting, was 4 days prior to my surgery, at the Marysville group. I have not missed one meeting. The support is vital to success.

I too, have struggled with my weight loss, losing 85 lbs in my first 6 months, then it stopped. I am still 40 lbs short of my goal, which is probably 20 lbs short of the "standard" for my height, etc. 

Last month I resorted to seeing a womens bariatric specialist that spoke at our support group in November 2010. Now, through following her direction, I have finally started losing again. I just reached my birthday (Nov) goal yesterday. Better late then never, right?

Never, at the beginning of this journey, did I ever think that I would be in this position. I had the normal pre-op fears - "what if it doesn't work for me" , etc. But once the weight started coming off, and recovery was completed, I figured that I was in the clear. The "tool" is just that, whatever tool you may have, it is still up to us to make it work. 

Puget Sound Surgical Center and Pacific Nutrition and Wellness are both GREAT!  I am so very thankful for the monthly support group in Marysville, as it has helped me through all the ups and downs. Support is the key! 

I hope that you find a local support group, but if not, or you just want to give it a try, our group is great. Our facilitator is a lap-band patient, and we have other regulars as well, but all types of surgery are welcome. 

Best of luck with your continued journey, and remember, no matter where you are at in this journey, someone else is there with you or has been and is willing to help. 

START OVER - You can do it!  

Hi Debbie,

Thanks. I would like to go to a meeting. I'm a REALIZE band patient and I know it works if I work it. See, if a person swallows too big a bite or doesn't chew well enough, it hurts like hell.  Couple that excuse with not dealing with the obesity between my ears, and it was easy enough to figure out that anything I could mix into a bowl of ice cream went down smooth and in great quantities. The weird thing is that prior to surgery I maintained my figure with sour cream and french fries and wasn't even into sweets.....

Any how, I did realize that just like alcohol (I just had nine years sober on Feb 1) , that I needed to switch my belief and thinking from an attitued of deprivation (I CAN'T HAVE THIS, WAHH!!) over to an attitude of freedom ( I DON'T HAVE TO HAVE THAT)...So, in the last three weeks, I've dropped ten pounds (putting me at 224) just by eating 1000 calories of healty food (except 150 of it is still coffee with cream:) and walking 60-90 minutes a day.

I feel so much better, but have to make intentional efforts to not trip out on the fact that had I been doing this for the last six months, I'd already be at goal...perhaps I can be of assistance to others though, by demonstrating that these things are tools that you have to make an effort to use or it can end up being like all the other gimmicks that we bought and didn't use.

It feels really good to commit the truth of my mistakes on paper (epaper).

THANk YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR ENCOURAGEMENT!!

Congratulations on both your recent weight loss and your "birthday". Nine years is HUGE! My significant other will have 3 years on February 18th, and I am so proud of him. We have nearly 9 years together, and the past 3 have been the best. 

My neighbor and friend got her Lap-Band in June 2010 and another close friend August 2009. We all have our struggles, but look to each other for support when we need it.  

It sounds like your on the right track, and I hope that you have the support you need for continued success.  Just go for it - you can do it. 

Good luck!  

It would be great if you could make it to one of our meetings sometime in Marysville.

Take care!