I was denied for the Lapband
I too was denied by my insurance company and know exactly how you are feeling. I don't know if you have already looked into www.obesitylaw.com but they may be able to help you. I agree with the above comments...don't give up!
After being denied by insurance, and no resolution in site after 4 years, I took out a 401K loan and paid $7300 cash in Mexico. Dr. Rodriguez, Acuna Mexico. As an RN, I did the research, and had a wonderful experience. It's an option, and might be the right one for you. As Suze Orman says, "People first, then things, then money"