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Nine days out from surgery. I peed out All that excess fluid they pumped through me. Since surgery date, I'm down 27 pounds. I came home with an additional 16 pounds of fluids, so the rest is actual weight loss.
I've been robbed! My grandbaby stole my heart! She just raised her hands and I surrendered.
What if the answer was not that you needed to restrict your calories, what if the answer was you got to partner with your beautiful brain and learn to listen to your amazing body and what it actually needed, in terms of food?
Especially with menopause coming in hot. (ha!) The fuel we use to lose, is typically the fuel we need to use to stay there.
What if the answer was learning about how things drop into a brain, how they show up in a body in a feeling sense, and the behaviors a human uses to cover up those feelings?
What if you learned the skill of noticing where your nervous system gets hijacked and how to redirect the the clouds of thought that drop into your brain and then CHOOSE a behavior that is in alignment with what you really really really want? Which is the pride, satisfaction or just the plan ol freedom of not having to think about/judge/compare your body?
For me, menopause was the most beautiful invitation to see that what I thought about things, where I let my mind settle and spin - all of this changed everything down stream. Because my mind went ******g WILD.
For The Beloveds reading in - its the same with the drinking, spending, being mad with your partner, having fury with the world. All of the things we use against us, it starts in our minds - and, while brains are gonna think **** like hearts are gonna pump, we have a choice of what we let sit in there, spin around, change our body chemistry, and alter our behavior.
Imagine being able to trust your body. Imagine not having to outsource your sense of what is right to a professional or even need to suspect an on-line calculator.
VSG with Dr. Alvarez in 04.2009. Maintain 130 lb loss - not by depending on surgical restriction or food rules. Change your mind, change your life.
Because it is true.
You COULD think this. You could be grateful now that you see how your regain opened up the rest of your life. Your regain, it is an invitation to understanding you, your mind, the way you move through the world not just with the food. Not with just another pouch reset. It happened for a reason.
You get to decide if it is proof of your character, your willpower, your lack of following the plan OR if it happened for an amazing reason. To show you how you think - and then you see, its not ONLY how you think about food, its how you think about everything.
Outsourcing your weight loss ability to your restriction - it is not sustainable for most of us.
Outsourcing how you feel about yourself to your loss, your gain, your extra skin - it is OPTIONAL. It is. Letting your resisting "temptation" with food leak out in overspending, overdrinking, overscrolling these are optional too.
Loves, deciding that the realization that restriction alone, food rules alone, endlessly counting carbs and calories alone was NEVER going to be the thing that saved us, can be the most amazing gift of our lives. We
can decide this. We can. We can change our minds about it and change our lives.
Happy Saturday.
VSG with Dr. Alvarez in 04.2009. Maintain 130 lb loss - not by depending on surgical restriction or food rules. Change your mind, change your life.
I was weighed right before and a few hours after. I gained 19 pounds. The surgeon laughed and said to go home and pee it out.
Real life begins where your comfort zone ends
Yes, everybody! The excess water weight should disappear over the next week
Of course you did, you were pumped full of fluids during surgery.
VSG with Dr. Alvarez in 04.2009. Maintain 130 lb loss - not by depending on surgical restriction or food rules. Change your mind, change your life.
Anyone go in for surgery and come out weighing more afterwards? Very frustrating. Haven't had an opportunity to cheat if I wanted to, which I don't.
What if nothing was wrong with you?
What if all of those thoughts are the beautiful mutterings of a human mind going about its business.
What if you dont have to "struggle to better yourself" - what if you could start to understand how your brain works, how you have been a GOOD human and not questioned the stuff as it dropped into your head?
The most amazing work I now have the chance to do is to show people that WE HAVE ****TY THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS AND NOTHING HAS GONE WRONG - and unlike the Nelly song "hot in heeeree" we actually dont have to think "I am getting so hot, I'm gonna take my clothes off.." just because someone said it.
Love, what if you are EXACTLY where you should be because what you have been so blessed to find out is - the calls are coming from inside the house! Your mind!
Learning how to manage my mind has lessened binge behaviors, over spending, over drinking, over food ruling, over all the things I was doing to run away from the resistance I had to, well. ME!
You are the beloved. You are exactly where you need to be. You and everyone who says Amen to what you have to say.
AND it does not have to be a struggle to better yourself, it can be a process of learning about how you think about things. We can be compassionate with and of our humanity.
VSG with Dr. Alvarez in 04.2009. Maintain 130 lb loss - not by depending on surgical restriction or food rules. Change your mind, change your life.
Hi CelestialJade,
I love the thoughts you have presented - and I notice that you are outsourcing your happiness to something aside from you and your ability to manage your mind.
You have AMAZING choices here that have nothing to do with having the surgery before or after.
You can choose to have your surgery before your wedding, and while you are on your honeymoon, choose to be proud of yourself that you had the surgery and this is the protocol that you get to follow, and how freaking blessed are you that you got to have your surgery?
You can choose to have your surgery afterwards and feel proud that you are a woman in a body who loves a man and are in an amazing place for your honeymoon.
When you let surgery decide if you will enjoy yourself, or your talking ****ty to yourself about your body decide if you will enjoy yourself - you lose either way.
Deciding now that you are the decider of how you feel about yourself, your choices, your appearance that your feelings come from your BRAIN - this will serve you well after surgery because there will come a time when, if what you are doing is relying on something outside of you to make you happy, you will have a feeling and decide its because you cant have X food, or you cant eat X amount of food, or you dont like your body because of X thing, or you are pissed at your husband because he isnt supporting you in X way, this is all outsourcing your joy, pleasure, happiness, satisfaction on things that never ever EVER deserved that responsibility.
I get it that around here a lot of time is spent dreaming of a life where a tiny amount of food, or losing weight, or plastic surgery afterwards is going to be the thing that makes us satisfied, enjoy ourselves, be comfortable in our skin - and the truth is when we take ownership and decide for ourselves - our world opens up.
While you might be saying who the F is this chick and what is she smoking - look -
"I'm PREGNANT!!!"
This is said by a 25 yo woman who has been trying for years.
This is said by a 12 yo girl.
This is said by a 57 yo woman who finally was getting to retire and go live on a boat with her dog and sail around the world.
The fact (pregnant) is the same. The only thing that makes people feel a way about it is what drops in their brains, what they THINK about the fact, what they feel in their bodies after their thought has created a mighty mighty ****tail of hormones in response to the thought.
If you were going to enjoy yourself either way - which would you choose.
if you are going to feel bad about your appearance either way - which would you choose?
Because you can choose.
Congrats,
Brandi
VSG with Dr. Alvarez in 04.2009. Maintain 130 lb loss - not by depending on surgical restriction or food rules. Change your mind, change your life.
Good Morning,
Don't forget to check out the new #AskDrA Show out now on Youtube.
Check it out here: https://youtu.be/7ZofGuB8E98
Regards
Dr. Alvarez
