Good read about before/after and getting to goal.

I thought that this was a good read about the feelings of getting to a goal weight. This girl has not had weight loss surgery, but has lost a lot of weight and very much understands the struggle.

Yes!  I read that yesterday and thought it was really interesting.  

Excellent read. Getting fixated on a number and thinking that a good life will magically only begin then are myths. This is why I like OA so much. They don't focus on the weight or the numbers. They focus on building character and resilience. When you start letting go of distorted self-images and developing self-respect instead, the weight starts coming off. 

That girl has a lot of courage and honesty (and can write well, too!).

 

psychoticparrot

Very good - thanks for sharing!

I think what really hit home for me (being that I'm still a "Before") is this from her page...

Hello, self.

I just wanted to tell you, it’s going to be ok.

You don’t know it self, but, one day, you will lose the weight. But, of course, that won’t fix everything. You don’t know that yet though. You don’t know that there’s more to it yet. That’s ok.

You don’t know it, self, but, one day, you’ll find someone who would and will love you yesterday, today, and tomorrow. You don’t know it, self, but you’re already worth loving.

You don’t know it, self, but you’re going to be successful. You’re going to have a career, and you’re going to be good at it. You don’t know it, self, but you’re going to fight so hard. You don’t know it, self, but you’re going to do great things.

You don’t know it, self, but one day, that smile will be real. Then, you’ll struggle to find it again, but that’s ok. You don’t know it, self, but life is both more beautiful and more difficult than you know. You don’t know it, self, but you’ll be glad you woke up tomorrow morning.

You don’t know it, self, but tomorrow comes. Things change in ways you don’t know, self. You change in ways you don’t know. You don’t know it, self, but you don’t know yourself. I wish I could tell you who you are, but I still don’t know you, self. I still struggle to love you, self. I’m sorry for that.

You don’t know it, self, but you’re already beautiful. You don’t know it, self, but those are still just words to me even now. You don’t know it, self, but you have a voice. You don’t know it, self, but you’ll find that voice. I believe.

You don’t know it, self, but you’ve been lied to. You don’t know it, self, but you’ve lied to yourself as well. You don’t know it, self, but you’re going to need help figuring all of this out. You don’t know it, self, but it’s OK to ask for this help. You don’t know it, self, but you deserve help even now. You don’t know it, self, but someone else believes you deserve help too.

I worry for you, self. I cry for you, self. I am angry at you, self. I am angry for you, self. Because you, frozen image self…you will never know these things. You, self caught in time, will never know love, joy, self respect, passion, drive. You, past self, will never know yourself. But, I want to know you, self. I want to love you, self. I want to be you, self.

We don’t know it, self, but we will be best friends. We don’t know it, self, but we will be the most important person to ourself forever; we touch our life more than any other. We don’t know it, self, but we need one another.

I don’t know you, self. But someday, I hope I will.

Love (someday soon),

You.

Thanks so much for sharing this resource !  Such powerful insights that resonate with me in such a big way !!!

I read that article too, and I cried.

That is where I am right now. Determining that "after" doesn't really exist. There is only "during" and that "Fat Me" was just as deserving as "Thinner Me." These are tough concepts to come to terms with.

I'm still working on doing that.

I shared this article on my Facebook and so many of my friends relate to it, not just for weight loss, but any major change in their lives. Can anybody hear me indeed...