That was harder than I thought it would be (long rant)
I am going to go in to a bit of a rant here. Seriously? Your mom was throwing a party for how many? You are an adult living away from home. A more appropriate way to manage the situation would be to say "Hey Mom, I know you have a lot going on and do not need to worry about making special foods for me. I am going to get some things I can eat. Do you need anything? I'll just throw this turkey burger on the grill with my zucchini, you want some?"
Take adult ownership of your needs and help your mom out.... geez.
I'm not upset with my family at all. I 100% agree this is on me. I had a hard time this weekend. I think a lot of it was because I thought I could just show up and find things that were ok. That isn't what happened. I ended up having a lot of anxiety about it -- I was sharing my feelings about that.
It is very frustrating for me that I can't be normal. It is how it is, but that doesn't make my feelings bad or rude or whatever - they are what they are.
VSG: 12/12/13, LBL, small TL, BL/BA: 11/7/14 Twins 12/9/18 HW after Twins 260. 5'10 37 years old - Stacy_WLS (MFP)
I am going to go in to a bit of a rant here. Seriously? Your mom was throwing a party for how many? You are an adult living away from home. A more appropriate way to manage the situation would be to say "Hey Mom, I know you have a lot going on and do not need to worry about making special foods for me. I am going to get some things I can eat. Do you need anything? I'll just throw this turkey burger on the grill with my zucchini, you want some?"
Take adult ownership of your needs and help your mom out.... geez.
Seriously? What a *****y response this is. Did you even read what the OP wrote?
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I am going to go in to a bit of a rant here. Seriously? Your mom was throwing a party for how many? You are an adult living away from home. A more appropriate way to manage the situation would be to say "Hey Mom, I know you have a lot going on and do not need to worry about making special foods for me. I am going to get some things I can eat. Do you need anything? I'll just throw this turkey burger on the grill with my zucchini, you want some?"
Take adult ownership of your needs and help your mom out.... geez.
Uncalled for response. Try reading the original post again! This was a personal vent but was not at against her family!
Highest 290, Banded - 248 Lowest 139 (too thin!). Comfort zone 155-165.
Happily banded since May 2006. Regain of 28lbs 2013-14. ALL GONE!
But some has returned! Up to 175, argh! Off we go again,
It's a good lesson to learn :) It'll be better next time!
VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)
Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170
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One thing I've figured out since surgery is that there are a lot of different paths to better eating and better health. Everyone needs to find out what works for them. No one needs cupcakes, of course, but since you are at goal, a cupcake once in a blue moon isn't terrible. I personally wouldn't have missed vegetables either. The last green thing I ate was cheese that was past it's expiration date. This works for me, but obviously wouldn't for you.
I think next time you need to bring more of the food you want. It sounds like your family won't become vegans any time soon. They sound like my kind of folks!
6'3" tall, male.
Highest weight was 475. RNY on 08/21/12. Current weight: 198.
M1 -24; M2 -21; M3 -19; M4 -21; M5 -13; M6 -21; M7 -10; M8 -16; M9 -10; M10 -8; M11 -6; M12 -5.
