Men / Dating post WLS

I met my husband on a blind date when we were 18. I did not care for him at all and had no intention of ever seeing him again.  A few months later my sister had a baby abd he brought them champagne.  She had set up the date.  She said I was making a mistake and to give him another chance.  A month later he called and asked me out again.  I went and it was totally different than the first date.  We started as friends and that has endured for our life- married 43 years. He makes me laugh- is kind and generous to others.  He always makes me feel beautiful no matter what my weight is. He is a successful businessman and wonderful father.  Be picky but one date does not tell the story. Have fun!

Nancy

Your husband sounds like the best kind of man.  I am so happy for you.  Having a partner like that makes all the difference in the world.  

Well, as a guy, I would have to ask what your definition of "Chemistry" is, as well as what "Concerns" you have.

An average looking nice guy who has his life together can be much better than the hunk who is a mess.  Of course if the nice guy is just not attractive to you, there isn't much you can do.

What concerns do you have with the guy you had chemistry with?  If he can't act right and be on his best behavior on the first date, what do you think he will be like when he is comfortable with you?

Decide what you want in a relationship, and what you will not tolerate.  Write the must and must nots doen on paper.  Then make good choices based on the decisions you have made.

After further review, I suggest that you not get too full of yourself, and go for a nice guy.

I would give both a second date. But I would not start any serious "talks" with someone I only had one date with. General discussions are fine, but if you start talking about marriage and kids and pressing them for their thoughts on both, most guys are going to run.

The purpose of dating is to find someone to have fun with. Someone who has similar interests and long-term goals. Until you have a commitment, date as many as you want.

After I had lost my weight and got back into the dating scene after many years of not dating, I needed a plan. I enjoyed reading The Rules for Online Dating and You Lost him at Hello.  HERE is a good article with a synopsis of the latter.

Good luck and remember to have fun. Otherwise, what's the point??

Thank you!  :)