Men / Dating post WLS

Congrats on your engagement!

Congratulations!!  How long have you been dating?

Isn't it amazing how sometimes "seeing" with our hearts can make everything so clear.  I want to share a story with you if you will indulge me...

I was in college when I met a wonderful man, but I didn't have chemistry with him at first, it took a very special moment for my heart to realize that he took my breath away...

He had asked me out a few times, and I had gently told him "no".  We were sitting in class when a young women rushed in looking completely defeated.  She had a tiny baby in her hands and the baby was crying loudly.  The woman pleaded with the professor to let her skip one more class because her baby was sick and she could not find anyone willing to sit with her.  The professor coldly told her that she had already missed two classes and that she should drop the class and try again next semester.  The women had tears in her eyes as she started to walk out of the class. This is where my hero acted.  He walked up to her and asked her if she would trust him enough to take care of her baby right outside the door while she went to class.  He said that he had not missed a single class and could afford an absence. He said, that it would be his honor to help her and would make his day.  She agreed, and I could see him sitting and rocking the baby right outside the door for two and a half hours.  All of a sudden, I felt tremendous chemistry toward this man who later became my boyfriend for two years. We never lacked chemistry...because his actions not just that day, but everyday and to all people, turned me on like nothing else ever could. We only separately because of different life goals, but it was this relationship that taught me what I most needed to learn at that young age about choosing my man; and my husband was the result of this learning.  I will always be grateful to him for teaching me about real chemistry and where to look for it.

That was a real cool story. Though it may not have ended like a romantic novel, it sure illustrates what I meant by not discounting the friend material.  You gained something special that you will continue to hold on to the rest of your life. To me, experiences like that are priceless.

I  this story :-) 

Ok Elina_7!!!! I'm at work, taking a lunch break and crying my heart out into my salad over your post. What a beautiful story. What a man!!!thank you so much for sharing that!!! We could all learn something from your experience 😊

I am so glad it happened when I was so young and that he was my first real romantic experience.  The lessons he taught me about what is important in a good man have never left me.  It would have been impossible for me to date a jerk after loving him.  He chose to go into the army and became an officer.  I knew, even then, that I was not cut out to be an army wife.  I wanted to live in one place and set roots in a community.  I came to America as a child and I very much wanted the white picket fence, small town dream.  He proposed to me but I couldn't say yes as we wanted a very different life.  I knew that he needed someone who could support him through his service and I wanted someone to be there all the time when we had children.  We just had different dreams and I didn't want to insist that he give up his and I knew that I was not willing to give up mine.  I remember being very upset with the world that things couldn't be different.  It wasn't until I met my husband that I understood the words to the song Unanswered Prayers.  :)

Elina,

I always love your posts, but today especially. What a wonderful story about your boyfriend. I'm touched that this experience is what led you to your husband. Congradulations on your weight loss. You are just an earth Angel.

Robin

This is a great story ;)

I have always been physically attracted to tall built men -- when I was big and even now.  I married a tall built man -- unfortunately he didn't have everything else I (now) know that I want -- mainly ambition and a lack of a marijuana addiction.  

I have realized that in life physical attraction only lasts until someone opens their mouth for a few minutes.  Quickly my feelings of attraction towards men changes based on their personality.  

I'm not sure if this answers the question.