I got my first "Don't lose anymore weight" comment

I play in a spring mixer hockey league.  They mix up the teams so we end up playing with new people and inevitably play against some of our own regular season teammates.  Last night I was playing against 2 of my teammates -- one of them the goalie.  

After the game she came over and said she didn't even recognize me.  Our other teammate had to point me out.  She said "you look great, but don't lose anymore". 

I'm not sure how I feel about it.  One the one hand, I am starting to get a bit bony -- my hips and ribs are definitely popping out a bit.  But there seems to be fat still around my thighs and a little bit on my belly.  My Aria scale still tells me that I'm 36% fat.  Maybe I should go get a serious body fat test done.  

I'm not planning on changing anything.  I'm not really sure what my weight should be.  I don't know.  It is odd to be seen as skinny.  

Rambling post done :)  I hope everyone has a good day!

my surgeon says thoses scales are not very accurate at judging  fat , the ones that work well cost thousands of $

go by how you fell and your health

Our surgery dates are pretty close and weight lost too!  I just started getting comments from a few people.  My BMI still has me in "overweight".  

I think the problem is that if we had always been thin they wouldn't have a problem with us being a low weight but the change they see is drastic and people equate extreme weight loss with illness so while to them we look "extreme", in the "normal" world we are still overweight.

I still have a lot of fat on my body but it's in areas now, not all over.  Yes my face, wrists and ankles are super tiny and you can see my collar bones and my hip bones can be felt easily but my stomach, thighs and calves still have quite a bit of fat on them.

I have different answers depending on who I speak to but in reality I couldn't stop losing right now if I tried (well unless I wanted to make myself sick eating doritos and ice cream lol), I am not at a healthy fat level and my goal has always been to be at a healthy weight not to be skinny.  

So to those people thank you for caring enough to be worried but I have a long way to go before I'm skinny or too thin.  I'm just way thinner then I was before lol

Yeah - I agree, I'm not ready to stop losing.  I don't think new people to meet me would think I need to lose any weight, but I would like to be a bit slimmer :)

I'm super scared of maintenance, so staying in losing is good for now!!  Plus I'm pretty determined to get into the normal BMI range.

well take it as a compliment but don't let it effect what you do.   more than one person will say that   to you or think it but stick to what your surgeon has told you.  they know best and you know how you feel.  isn't it fun to find bones you forgot you had?     diane

I like both of the previous responses.  They're basing it on a comparison to the previous you...not to healthy you.  Keep rockin' on until you know you're there.

Wow.  I mean it's cool that she said you shouldn't lose anymore, but it's also pretty crummy that she felt entitled to comment on your weight.  Her opinion is probably also skewed by her past knowledge of you since you're skinny compared to where you started!  (I've got to wonder if someone who met you yesterday would think you were too skinny, or if you should lose a few more pounds, you know?)

Getting a body fat test done sounds like a great idea.  I'm hoping to do my first sometime at the year post-op point.  Fun times!  I'm also not 100% sure where my weight should be, so I've always figured I'd switch to a body fat goal once I get closer.  

I started getting those comments when I reached about 140 lbs., and was still in the overweight category.  The people are just not used to seeing you thin, and our society is now used to much heavier people in general.  When I go to another country, like France or Japan, they still think I am a *****unky.  :)  (Well, not really, but no one thinks I am too thin there and my clothes sizes fall right in the middle and not the 00 that I get here). 

I have reached my doctor's weight goal but am still working towards my personal goal. Friends and co-workers make comments that I shouldn't lose anymore. I take it as a caring compliment.

I have been surprised at male co-workers who become really concerned about my weight. It is rather sweet in a way. It is better than the comments behind my back about being too big. I just shrug and continue to work the plan.

I never wanted my weight-big or small-to be the defining factor in my relationships. I have been rather private about my surgery in order to avoid attention. But I realize that I have probably commented on others as they have lost weight. I speak before thinking at times😳.

I saw my oncologist last year at about this time, and she told me I was "done" at about 170 +.  I wonder what she'll say this year at 140+?  I am in maintenance now- have been for about 9 months ( and additional 7#s)  am happy where I am, and know I am done.  Guess what I'm saying is, that you will know when you know....Bonnie