You're getting too thin comments HELP PLEASE

Tracy - that response is awesome!  

I had RNY June 10, 2013 and went to a Passover dinner the other night and saw people I haven't seen since October.  I got so many comments from people that I look great, etc. One person there has had eating disorders for years and proceeded to tell me that I am way too thin and I need to stop losing immediately. I laughed and explained to her that it isn't that easy and that I am right on track with what my surgeon wants me to do.  She asked me when I would stop losing and I told her that my body will eventually even out and the weight loss will stop.  It annoyed me because she just kept pushing and I just wanted to tell her to look in the mirror. She looks like a skeleton.

With the compliments I had no problem just being gracious and saying thank you and telling people how great I feel.  Somehow you figure out how to nicely tell people to buzz off.

Lisa

I think she's afraid you'll look better than she does.

No one is telling me I'm too thin,  but my mom is gearing up for it. I mentioned I still want to lose 40-50lbs and she was absolutely horrified. Oh my god no!  I don't want you to look sickly!! I told her,  Ma, I'm 200lbs right now. I can afford to lose a lot more weight.

My patience is short on that so I've abruptly cut off those conversations. Fact is, my health is no one's business. My body will stop when it's done,  or I may pu**** a little further to reach personal goals. I'm under the close supervision of a NUT, surgeon,  and nurse. 

Haha wow I had the SAME exact conversation with the same reaction!  "I'm still 200 lbs and I want to lose about 50 more"  Family- "OMG no!!!!!!!"  This is the same family who made fun of me all those years for being overweight...  Well you can't have it both ways people!  So frustrating.  I just find it funny that my family thinks I look fine now, at 200 pounds, when they were making fun of me (my brothers mostly) back when I was in high school and I was 180 pounds!  Funny how that works...  I'm still sticking with my goal of 145.

My journey has just started. I'm only 3 weeks post-op but I can't wait to be told that I look "too thin". A friend of mine (a born thin person) told me to ignore any such comments, when they come, and to recognize that some of them will be coming from people who you are now their size or smaller and they're accustomed to you being the "fat one".

Agree with the fact that some of your friends and family are accustomed to you being the "fat one"! When I went from 260+ lbs to 200 lbs everyone was happy for me. When I said I wanted to lose 50+ more, people acted like I was crazy, including my oldest sister (who might be 130 lbs) and my grandmother (108 lbs). I felt like they thought I didn't deserve to be skinny. Maybe I deserved to be "not huge"... but asking to be skinny? Out of the question! 

PS, at 150-160 pounds I do not look skinny or thin by any means. I look normal at best. When I post on ObesityHelp now about wanting to lose another 10-20 lbs, I get the EXACT same comments. "You look great! Why would you want to lose any more?".. "Your body is settled at this weight" .. "135 pounds is unhealthy".. and this has all come from posters on here! So, the point is that everyone has an opinion and, while you should listen, you don't always have to buy what they're sellin'. In the end, your family and friends should support your decision to reach your goal weight, irregardless of whether they think it's too low for you. But they're still human and will want make their opinion known, so you just have to smile and thank them for their worrying about you! 

People are not saying it to me, but to my husband.  I have had a few people look astonished when they see me. 

I told my husband that I feel fine. My doctor says I am fine, so I am not concerned.

If it is a family member, tell them that their comment hurt your feelings. You have worked hard to get where you are and you need them to be supportive and if they can't then please do not say anything to you.  You are being medically supervised, so if there is a problem, you will know. Remind them that when you were overweight and your health was terrible they were not concerned enough to say anything, so please keep their comments to themselves.

Some people can be insensitive and most people are incredibly NOSEY! 

I will tell you after the last time I lost 100 pounds on my own no surgery I got the same comments. Everyone was telling me I was to thin and I looked sick. My face was way to thin and they wanted me to stop losing weight. I wanted to lose 10 more pounds. I was so confused. I talked to my husband who always supported me and he said if I want to lose 10 more go for it that he didn't think I look sick I was fine and they were just jelous. People can't make up their minds they tell you for years you should lose weight and when we do we get comments that are uncalled for. My father on the other hand said to me you won't keep it off no one ever does and every time I lost any good amount of weight I can still hear him saying that in my head. Any way after hearing the comments I was terrified of gaining it all back. I would tell my husband that every time we would exercise. Then my daughter got married and I catered it and I gained it all back and then some. Now as far as you daughter goes, my daughter use to think she was perfect and when she spoke she didn't think about what was coming out of her mouth and still don't. She didn't care about how the person she is talking to is going to feel about her comments she just blurts them out. In todays day most of the younger kids (and mine is 31) is all about how they look and think every one should be perfect. If her comment bothers you to much I would tell her that you are very proud of what you have accomplished ( as you should be) and if she doesn't have anything nice to say then to keep her comments to her self. Hope this helps some.