Manic Monday - update for my friends

You are so sweet. Thank you. Fortunately come January, I can have access to any therapist or psychiatrist that I want. I really just need to find a way to live with myself until then. 

I still look normalish - I have some extra little pudgy around the middle but it's just the fact that bothers me...I hate myself for going down this road. I need to accept it and move on but I've been best friends with denial lately. 

Ah *sighs* Keith...

I am the last person in the world who should try to educate others on the fine art of diplomacy.

But, do yourself a favor and don't EVER post on one of my threads that at 2 years post Sleeve, I should be coaching and mentoring. We are all here to LEARN and you putting that kind of unneeded pressure on someone else is the biggest line of bull**** I have ever seen.

You have no business coaching and mentoring others on this forum or in RL if you can't recognize when someone is doing their best to put their lives back together with what they have. Pull your head out of your ass and gulp down a big dose of humility. Half the **** you post makes me roll my eyes, but I don't call you out every time.

In the last 3 months, I've been diagnosed with melanoma and had 4 excissions, my son went through a grueling black belt testing, my daughter has had some personal issues, I spent last week looking at memory care facilities for my dad, my husband has shingles and yesterday my MIL fell on her driveway and had to go to the ER. That's on to of regular life **** I ******g DARE you to say to me what you said to Alison.

Back pain is some next-level **** It is the only time in my life that I wanted to die. Dealing with it on top of life is nearly impossible. It took me years of shots and losing a ****load of weight to get my back problems under control and sometimes the ****** up discs in my back STILL make me want to curl up on the ground and cry.

Bad form, Ketih.

So let me try to understand this? You (in general not you specifically) have **** going on in your life that eating poorly is at the very least contributing to if not exacerbating the problems in your life and you think its bad advice to eat what you know you are supposed to eat and not the junk food you said you were eating is bad advice **** Off! 

You think you are special because you have some problems and some stress. You think I don't have **** like that in my life? Have always had that **** in my life? I do. Again **** Off. Your life is no different and certainly no more special than mine or anyone elses on here. I have chronic pains too. I have children too. I have money issues and spousal issues and family issues and the same ******g **** as everyone else. You are not special. Everyone on this board is here because we are more alike than different. Glad you got this all dialed in. You don't like my posts? I don't give a rats ass. Who the **** are you?

"My life sucks so I guess I shouldn't follow the plan that works for everyone else. I am special I need a special plan?" It doesn't work that way people. So please do yourself a favor and mouse over my little picture up there to the left and when the little menu pops up click the block button.

You are one tough chick!! I dont think I could handle all that!  I hope things start looking  up for you soon!

Hugs to you, sweetheart. You are a fighter. Grab life by the balls and run--or limb while holding your back and whimpering in pain. I hope it starts getting better for you, too. :-)

Keith, I admire your enthusiasm, but sometimes you forget empathy and simple kindness. When someone is barely staying above water they need a hand and maybe a rope, not a lecture on swimming technique. Allison doesn't need to get back to basics right now. She needs basic survival support and understanding hearts.

Thinking of you and sending healing thoughts.

Kairk's idea of meat and veggies is a start. It wouldn't even require cooking...pre-made rotisserie chicken and lunch meats, salad greens, pre-cut veggies (carrots, peppers, etc). and just eat that when you are hungry. It's protein first and doesn't require thought. It will, however, require a trip to the store so maybe a friend can help you out. Do you have grocery delivery in your area?

and I guess, if there's crap in the house, try and purge (all, some?) it. It's harder to eat it if it isn't around.

just sending some cyber {{{HUGS}}} and good thoughts and wishes your way.

sophie