Just need some encouragement! Coworker is bringing me down - long venting rant.

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LOL - thanks so much for the encouragement!  Shopping helps everything!

I agree with Debra.  Rather than seeing you as a resource, she's seeing you as a threat.  Keep reminding yourself not to let her control your feelings or your appetite.

Sometimes I'm glad my office is in a separate building from everyone else.  It's easier to remove myself from all the office drama.

I was thinking the same thing Debra is.  It sounds like she's jealous of you.  If not because you've lost so much weight (great job, btw!) then maybe because all of the other coworkers agreed with you.  You are obviously much smarter and way more professional.  Sounds like you bruised her over-sensitive ego.  If I were you, I'd move to a new cubicle and be done with her.  No need to sit there and feel stressed.  Sometimes out of sight is out of mind.  Good luck!

I agree, take them up on the offer of a new cube.  It is easy to say ignore as she is immature and isn't going to change.  But, I know I would feel the same as you.  DON"T let her cause you to eat and risk gaining, THAT would make her happy to know she can affect and hurt you.

Thanks!  I have considered the new cube, but the only available spot is away from the other people who are very supportive --so I'd have to give that up to escape.  A part of me doesn't want to "give in", but if that's what I have to do, then I just might!

I hear yea!

This isn't about you - you said she's got issues w family not talking to each other? Sounds like that's how she learned to deal with conflict.

You can control one thing about this situation, your reaction. That's it.

Look, if you're like most of us, you have people-pleasing tendencies. You figured out long ago that the best way to avoid hassle about not fitting in (ie weight) was to be friendly, professional, and to get along with everyone, no matter what. But some people won't play along, and it's not your job to make them. Not everyone in this world will like you, and you can't let it tear yourself up.

Your boss likes & supports you. Your coworkers like & support you. It's gotta be obvious what she's doing to the people around you - don't let her see it bothering you.

You can't control her, so stop letting her live rent-free in your head.

Thanks!  Did you see the Big Bang Theory when Will Wheaton used the "I'm living rent free in your brain." line -- that cracked me up, and was exactly what I thought about this.  It just not that easy to evict someone! Maybe I need to just visualize the eviction and go from there!

You totally nailed it.