I've lost my daughter

maggienoella
on 6/6/13 5:31 am
Oh I'm so very sorry.

Thank you for your post. I need to talk to my daughter again. Your daughter reminds me of mine.

Every once in a while we talk & something always comes out about what she is afraid of. The last one was tornadoes. Before that it was school shootings. She just turned 10.

Again, thank you.
Elena A.
on 6/6/13 5:33 am
VSG on 06/10/13

My sincere sympathy for the loss of your daughter, and thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings to others.  My 20 year old has suffered severe anxiety and depression for years and it is a constant worry for me. I wish you well during this very difficult time and hope you always remember the joy and love you shared, together, especially during the last year.  Again, thanks for sharing your story.

 

    

AndiT
on 6/6/13 5:33 am - Hillsboro, OR
VSG on 10/30/13

Thank you for sharing.  My heart aches for you and your family and I am so so sorry you lost her so young.

You make a vary valid point that has been one of the motivating factors in pursuing gastric surgery.  I have a young son and I watch him grow everyday, without me.  All of the things I am unable to do with him and for him because I hurt under all of this weight.  Aside from helping myself, I am doing this for him, because I don't want to miss anymore opportunities with this amazing kid.

I wish you the best and offer all the hugs and love I can give.

sarapilar
on 6/6/13 5:48 am
VSG on 02/21/13

Just wanted to say I am so, so, so sorry for your loss, she sounds like an amazing girl, and I know she felt your love. I have a 4 year old daughter and reading your post broke my heart.  My heart goes out to you, and thank you for sharing since I now plan on having this talk with my daughter (and 2 year old son) when they are 8, 9 or 10.  It is indeed a very real and serious issue that must be addressed.  I wish you and your family the peace that passes all understanding at this very, very hard time.

"The most difficult part of changing how you live and eat is believing that change is possible. It takes a fierce kind of love for yourself."Geneen Roth
    
shrinking_sarah
on 6/6/13 5:52 am - CA

I am so sorry to read this, but thank you for sharing it with us.  I will remember this, especially as my children get older.  I have a bi-polar sister, so it is an especially good reminder to me to be watchful.

Sarah, VSG Dr. Cirangle--12/28/12, HW: 265 SW: 253 GW: 130???

    
grayC
on 6/6/13 5:55 am
VSG on 05/01/13
My thoughts and prayers to you and your family at such a devastating time in your life...
What you said is so true, children are exposed to so much more than we were at
Their age..

   

        
ReadyforPlastics
on 6/6/13 6:02 am

I can only begin to imagine the pain and devastation you must feel.  You are a beautifully brave woman to share this very personal story with us - thank you.  I pray for your continued strength and that by sharing your story and your daughter's story that you might save the life of another child.    As difficult as that must have been to write out, you never know who you might have reached or whose life you might have changed just by sharing your story with honesty and openness. 

 

God bless you and your family. 

VSG December 2011

Choose gratitude. 

But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!   Galatians 5:22-23

awdoinger
on 6/6/13 6:14 am - TN
I'm so sorry. There are no harsh words to be said and no judgement to be made. Your daughter was in pain and it wasn't your fault. I can't even begin to imagine the pain you are in now. I hope that you and your family hold each other close during this time of deep grief.

I also really want to thank you for being honest about how much your daughters life improved after you had surgery. Just by chance, things worked out for me to have my surgery last month, 4 months before the baby we are adopting is due to be born. I have always wanted to be a healthy mom. It's a small miracle for me that I am getting that chance for the first time during my 40th year alive.

Peace be with you.
aliekat
on 6/6/13 6:15 am

Took a lot of courage to post that. being a parent I cannot imagine what that is like. Being in the health care field I have been with families who have walked this path and it is so hard to get a young person to share their pain, sometimes there are simply no signs of trouble.

alex

(deactivated member)
on 6/6/13 6:19 am

There are no words that can even begin to tell you how very sorry I am that this happened to you and your family.  I have a 12 year old daughter who is beautiful, intelligent and very sensitive.  I will hug her closer and ask more questions and give her more love in honor of your post.  I will plan an extra long mother-daughter time this weekend in your daughters honor.  May your post encourage all of us to show our love more deeply and to ask more questions of each other.  Thank you for your courage to share this and may you find peace.  My deepest sympathy on your loss.

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