I've lost my daughter

ravenbrown
on 6/6/13 4:14 am - TX
VSG on 10/08/12

I'm so very sorry for your loss.  I can't express how sorry I am.  Thank you for sharing. 

    

linzeelee
on 6/6/13 4:15 am - Omaha, NE
VSG on 05/17/13

I am so very sorry for the loss of your daughter. I cannot imagine what kind of person would have judgment or harsh words for you.

I will tell you that I was similar to you daughter at that age. A quiet, smart overachiever who kept everything inside. I was suicidal for years and no one knew. I did not tell anyone. I'm not telling you this because I want sympathy. I am telling you this because I want you to know it is not your fault and there is nothing you could have done. It is very hard to get inside the head of someone so secretive and they can carry on like things are normal very well.

I feel heartbroken for you right now. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Lindsay ~ 5'4" ~ HW (5/6/13): 280 ~ SW (5/17/13): 273 ~ CW: 140
Losses by month: pre-op: -8  M1: -18  M2: -12  M3: -13  M4: -9  M5: -10  M6: -12
  M7: -14  M8: -12  M9: -2  M10: -8  M11: -9  M12: -2  M13: -6  M14: -7

   

ShelleKarena
on 6/6/13 4:24 am
VSG on 07/10/13 with

I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing.  I had a friend in high school who was very attractive, outgoing, popular and seemed very happy. No one knew he was depressed at all until the day his family found him. Depression is a very sneaky thing and even easier to hide.

camilla1031
on 6/6/13 4:28 am - MI
Praying for you and your family
Marley M.
on 6/6/13 4:35 am - Brooklyn, NY
VSG on 07/19/12 with

I am so very sorry and I am heartbroken for you and your family on the loss of your daughter.  Please hang in there and take care of yourself as best you can during this time/

HW 316 SW 310 GW 170-175                    

        
ParisGirl
on 6/6/13 4:36 am
VSG on 04/25/13

My heart breaks for you and your family.  Your strength is beyond my imagination.  Thank you for sharing your tragedy so as to educate and help others.  That is quite a wonderful honor for your daughter.

Mental illness is a part of my life.  It is a stigma I try to break whenever I'm given or see an opportunity.  Thank you being a loud voice in that fight.

I pray for you and your family.  Your angel will be with you always. 

            

 

Miss150
on 6/6/13 4:37 am
Your loss breaks me. I am so very sorry. Please, please take care of yourself and your family. Wrap yourselves up in support of friends, church, family, professionals, and I pray that God will comfort and heal you in your terrible loss. Bonnie.

  goal!!! August 20, 2013   age: 59  High weight: 345 (June, 2011)  Consult weight: 293 (June, 2012)  Pre-Op: 253 (Nov., 2012) Surgery weight: 235 (Dec. 12, 2012) Current weight: 145

 TOTAL POUNDS LOST- 200 (110 pounds lost before surgery, 90 pounds lost Post Op.diabetes in remission-blood pressure normal-cholesterol and triglyceride levels normal!  BMI from 55.6  supermorbidly obese to 23.6  normal!!!!  

 

 

SuperBee
on 6/6/13 4:41 am
VSG on 05/28/13 with

I also thought the title of this was going to be weight related and was deeply saddened to read the actual post.  I am so very sorry for your loss and offer my deepest condolences to you and your family during this difficult time.  

Pauline

HW: 283.4 SW: 269.8 CW: 200 GW: 150

danixbanani
on 6/6/13 4:48 am - NY
VSG on 10/12/12

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  I cannot imagine the pain you have gone through.  Thank you for posting and making other people aware...the memory of your daughter will carry on through sharing her story.  Hopefully you may even help other people who have gone through this or who are ill themselves.  I wish only the best for you going forward.  I'm sending you a big cyber hug.

band to sleeve revision and loving life!

You do you, and I'll do me

mapietras
on 6/6/13 4:48 am - MI

I am so sorry. Thank you for having the courage to share this. My heart goes out to you.

I get what are saying about asking your children about their pain. I had a situation some years back, when my daughter wouldn't answer that question, but I sensed something was terribly wrong. She was beautiful and hardworking. Yet, so angry, it was like walking on eggshells around her. It was beyond my ability to fix. I too chalked it up to puberty. Then I met a woman at work (I was cutting her hair) and she described my daughter. She worked with adolescents like my daughter. It was like God sent this woman to me, and suddenly I knew what to do. I had my daughter admitted to a psychiatric unit for adolescents. It was hard letting her go and trust her care to strangers...and was none to soon. Turns out she was both homicidal and suicidal...and she had been raped. It stole her soul. I had no idea. I'm sure the people in the psych unit saved her life. So hard...so hard.

I'm so glad you had time with your daughter this past year. You will treasure those moments in your heart. Again, my heart goes out to you.

    

    

HW:225 SW:199  CW:191  GW:132

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