Moving on, and moving forward

LOL - I think Frisco has some super powers for conveying a lot in just a few words. Thanks to the both of you

Allison, Focus on all the positives, all yours accomplishments, I mean just look at your before and afters, You are my number one inspiration. You look amazing! I am not just saying that. My friend, LOVE yourself, Just like we all love you

Thanks girl - I loooooove you!!! I will learn to love myself too

I don't know the details of what's been happening recently, but I wanted to send out a virtual hug. Depression sucks everything out of your life, even common sense and self-preservation. I regained a lot of weight during my depressive times. I've decided that if it shows it's damn head in my life again, I'm not going to be stubborn and will pursue it from the start with meds/therapy etc.. instead of thinking it will pass.. what ends up passing is time, and too soon I can look back and see the damage done. Take care of #1. You are light years ahead in health than where you were.. that is ALL that counts, that continual small forward momentum, getting healthier or holding the line and holding onto what you fought for. No one stays on a totally even keel month to month.. up/down/sideways.. the fact that you are still at the same, a year later- yep, that's a biggie for us MO & SMO folks in recovery.. This **** ain't a cure, it's just one way to manage this chronic condition.. meaning, yep.. it's a life time thing to deal with.

Never give up! Yes!  It's because of you I have that attitude.  I wouldn't have thought I could do it...but I saw you doing it.  So I tried. The truth is that being SMO we don't get to goal in a year...or maybe even two...or maybe even three..four or five.  You know you say it's about the journey? That's what my quote on my signature is about.  It's about making the right choices every day and keeping up with doing that...because that's the only way to live.  We have to find glory in every moment.  We can't live for a future moment.  Just remember there are many of us with very high BMI's that couldn't have done it with out you.  You paved the way lady!  No one will every understand what it's like to lose 200 pounds unless they've done it!  You did it!  Your a soldier! 100% EWL might be the picture of success on the VSG board...but lady they GOT NOTHING ON YOU!

Alison, 

i don't know what I can add that hasn't already been said, but you have been the star of this show for me, from the beginning. We all struggle, some more than others. But I have always appreciated your honesty about your challenges. Many of us post the good studd and leave out the not so good stuff, but not you. You share it and let the rest of us know it's okay to not be perfect. You are tough, yet tender, which is just what a strong woman should be.

Judy

Sometimes I forget how strong I am, but I'm totally crazy too :)  

You are amazing! You've done far more than many have with wls. Of course when it's your own feelings, it's hard to see what OTHERS see. I wish you could see what others see in the same light. We are our own worst enemies. We are all the hardest on ourselves. Learning to be easier on yourself is a life-long process just like maintaining weight and keeping lifelong habits of health. It's never over until we're not on this earth anymore. We have to make our best choices minute by minute but if we screw up, we have the next minute or hour or day to make better choices. That's all we can do! Strive to be our best, pat ourselves on the back when we screw up, and keep on truckin'. Good luck to you. I have appreciated your inspiration and input since I've been on here and I want to say thank you. 

Your honesty always makes me smile.

I know exactly what you mean about feeling like a failure. I haven't hit my personal goal yet and I've been trying to decide what I'm going to do about it.

I only know one thing. I absolutely, positively DESERVE to know what it feels like to be 135.

Good luck to you. To both of us.

Goals can **** with your head, especially when they involve overcoming what are essentially deeply ingrained parts of self.  I personally am much happier when I give myself lots of latitude and time.  I will just never give up and I try my damnest to not go backwards.

You have so much to be proud of.  You have lost so much weight and you work on yourself without giving up.  All any of us can do is be the best that we can be at any given moment.  Sometimes the best is not so good.  As long as we know we can do better and work to get there, we are a success.

Be kind to yourself, don't dwell on the negative and strive to make your life pleasurable.  Just say "fuck no", I am not going to feel guilt or shame or sadness over crap that happens.  Negative emotions are such a waste of life.

Your glass is way more than half full.