How do I broach VSG with my husband?

Ha so true! What's sad is that the same friends who have over the years (over & over again...) pulled me aside for or trapped me into a weight loss 'Intervention' are the ones who scoff at WLS. But they're not the ones living in my body - I love that!

My husband and I have a very loving and supportive marriage, so I was surprised at first by his hesitation when he knew how important this surgery was to me. His response was that he thought I was beautiful no matter what the number on the scale said. I also felt guilty because I knew we couldn't really afford the surgery. After continuing to discuss it he finally confessed that he always knew just how lucky he was to have me as his wife and if I had the surgery I might realize just how much better I could do. I was shocked by his insecurity because we have such a strong relationship. He said he has heard horror stories about people who lose weight and then get divorced. I reassured him that this life-changing experience would bring us closer together and would help me to live a longer, healthier life. I do think that wls can change relationships. If  someone doesn't feel good about themselves to begin with and has low self esteem then they may put up with others not treating them the way they deserve. I would expect that after wls one  would start treating themselves better and therefore expect more from others. I haven't had the surgery yet but I can tell you that after I reassured my husband that this was a good thing for both of us he has come around. His encouragement and support means the world to me.  I pray your conversation goes well and wish you the best of luck. 

Thanks so much for all the encouraging responses!

I have been trying to be more vocal in general about how my weight bothers me, the pain I am in, how I wish I could feel better being more active, my blue outlook about it, how many conflicting opinions there are on weight loss, & some of those studies that show how impossible it is to keep weight off when you've always been heavy. I think these things might start his brain clicking in this direction so that when I bring it up it might not be too much of a shocker.

I did tell him that I regretted not having done it when my Mom had hers done five years ago, which is when he told me I wasn't big enough yada yada. That convo may not have gone so well, but it has got the wheels turning.

All I'm hoping for is a real dialogue where there is a back & forth of real concerns for and against. I will definitely be writing down some of these suggestions for when that dialogue happens - thank you guys!!

For me the most important part of the conversation was finally opening up and telling him how much I was struggling.  I always put on a smile and never really showed how hard it was to be large.   God Bless him, but he did not see the 279 lbs I was carrying on a 5ft 1inch frame and was surprised to learn how much I really weighed.  He didn't see how uncomfortable I was in my own skin, and he didn't see the emotional toll my weight was taking.  All he saw was the beautiful girl he married.

It really took some time for him to get used to the idea and it was important that I not rush him into seeing things my way.  He came with me to a seminar to learn more, and really we just talked and talked until we made the decision that surgery was right for us. 

Good luck with this... I know it's not easy.