Here here!

I feel the best thing to do is to stay blissfully ignorant.

She is on the verge of being 50 Shades of Grey in the WLS world. Love her or hate her, she will take her unhappy, confused, conflicting self to the bank.

I think she's a ******g genius.

Why didn't we think of this first????  ****

Not me! I'm not buy'n.  No ******g genius status given here, no idol worhsip...  Don't you remember the "genius", the disgraced author James Frey on Oprah. She reminds me of him in a way.  Ha! 

The only thing Frey did wrong was try to make fiction reality. If he would have just published them as fiction, he probably never would've gotten to meet Oprah, or start his own publishing company. He would've never sold screen plays. His strategic lying, while wrong made him a best-seller.

We Americans do love our villains.

Ain't controversy fun?!?!?

AMEN sista!!!!!

I admit, I reacted.  But I think I reacted differently.  As someone whose parent died from complication of WLS, and someone who is currently experiencing my own complications, I reacted with pity for this woman.

It's so sad that she only got half of what she tried to get.  Yes, WLS is a tool, and yes, ostensibly, you will be happier when you are physically healthier.  But, if you don't realize that's only half the battle, you'll never win the war.  It's like leaving your first string in reserve for the big game.  You set yourself up to fail, and then are shocked when you do.

We all battle our own demons, whether related to food directly, or whether food is just the symptom.  The fact is, you can't ignore the demons.  Eventually, they come back, no matter how deep you bury them.

It's sad that she was given a tool that let her break all the rules, and ignore the work.  Something easily won is seldom well appreciated.  

I hope, for her sake, that she does the rest of the work.  Skinny won't make you happy, physically healthy won't make you happy....unless you treat the whole person, body and mind, all you'll be is skinny.

Allison, you are a beautiful woman, no matter what shape your body is.  The hardest work you have in front of you has nothing to do with your weight, and everything to do with being able to look in a mirror and see not only what you look like, but who you are.

Hey Love!

I have no idea what article you are referring to but I just want to say "THANK YOU" for throwing out there that this ain't simple. 

Although I know in my heart of hearts that I am not the only one having difficulty with this eating/weight/body stuff after WLS. A lot of times I feel like a freak because I can't get it right even when I seem to be doing all right.  I come here and people say Oh, it's easy, it's simple.  Eat 600 calories, get thin, and have no remembrance of what brought you here.  ALL compulsions, ALL habits, everything shrinks just like your fat cells Shazzaam and you are - CURED!

I have a terrible time getting skinny, being skinny.  I have a terrible time being fat.  I have a terrible time being" fat" but I feel terrified being "skinny".  Now these feelings are not constant but when they are, they strong enough to produce an internal war.  Sometimes this war within has no words just feelings. 

Even with all sorts of treatment, we are never done.  We can get better, we can experience long or short periods of abstinence.  Life can be real good - too good even, too overwhelming, too dull, too fear invoking and we go back to what feels safe, what we used . . . what we got even in that darkest midnight hour - what soothes us even for the moment.

There are no simple solutions for most of us who feel, process, and keep desiring to get better.  We win by working through the struggles, moving forth even when we have to wrestle ourselves.  We keep doing, we keep doing, we keep doing . . . .

Peace and love hun.  I can only admire your journey.  You are awesome and don't you ever forget that!

*SQUEEZE*

Layla

Ummm.... so tell me what I think ????

I've always had the position that some have it harder than others..... how can I not think that from what we all see here daily.....

Every ones struggle can be different..... mine not yours and visa versa.....

My question has always been and still is......how do you gauge it?

I can honestly say......to get to 350lbs. although I may not claim any of these....I sure could be labeled as....

- I am/was/is addicted to food

- I'm a classic over eater

- I was always hungry

- ! was/is/am addicted to sugar and carbs

- I ate for happiness and/or sadness

- I was a sleep eater

- I ate to much of the wrong foods to often.

The big question "for me"....... At what level was/is "my" level ???

Was it easier or harder for me......???? Will it be easier or harder for me (cause I know I ain't done yet)

My stance has always been (read my way back posts) that I would never use the term success for my WL till 3-5 years out.... when 3 years came... I said 5 years..... when 5 years comes.... I'm gonna say 7 years..... when 7 years comes I'm gonna say 10 years.....

Two people can say.... I'm addicted to carbs......who has it worse???? that's the question.

On a personal note.... Alison, I've always thought your accomplishments have been nothing short of amazing and I encourage you and support you to get it back together.

frisco

You are so right you never know what a persons life is like or what kind of struggles they face everyday, everyone has there own demons to face. This is not just a cure all diet we have all had a major surgery in order to has a successful life style change so people have a harder time with it than others and some never really go through the head games that come along with it that others do. Someone should never be judged for what they are going through because you don't know what it took to put them there.