McDonalds Bacon Egg and Cheese Bagel UPDATE

 The point here is ABSOLUTELY NOT about control, that's the issue. To the OP- would you have stopped at 1/2 of a bagel if your stomach could accomodate it?

I seriously doubt any of us became morbidly obese because we had CONTROL.

I also seriously doubt any of us will keep the weight off if we rely on this faulty CONTROL system we think we have.

At some point you make choices, you have consequences but giving her props for not eating the whole bagle at less than 3 months out and calling it CONTROL is laughable! 

But she's only justifying it for herself, not for you.  Seriously it's her journey and she did it and she's not looking for validation because she knows from posting before she won't get it here.  She's a big grown up woman, on a personal journey, so ascribing motivations to her for doing potential harm only to herself and being okay with it, is way off base and inappropriate.   'Wouldn't be for me' is an appropriate response.  Taking her out to be stoned, not so much.

 Fair enough.  I was only trying to help along with the other 95% of the people that agree with me on this thread.  Maybe if she wouldn't have posted a very similar thread earlier about the same exact thing and people gave her lots of suggestions which she chose not to listen to then none of this would have escalated the way it did.  What was inappropriate was her bringing this up again just days later and possible the harsh statements of the one poster talking about how she was trying to see how many hits she got.  

No that wasn't inappropriate, it's a free forum, she was sharing her journey.  I read her first posting she was simply giving us an update on what was then a craving.  Where are the rules about what you can and cannot post about your personal journey.  And i don't think 95% of the people on the thread were trying to help.  since when does bashing=help. Disagreeing with someone is what forums are for, beating them up for a personal choice, which only impacts their life, is not.

 So its a free forum to give your opinion yet in this comment your telling me how I was inappropriate and your telling me what I should have said?  Doesn't sound too free to me.  

"so ascribing motivations to her for doing potential harm only to herself and being okay with it, is way off base and inappropriate.   'Wouldn't be for me' is an appropriate response."

Regardless of what "your opinion" is .. no one here except for that one person was trying to bash her, stone her or anything else.  Maybe in the last 18 years as a paramedic I can think of a few drunks and drug addicts that I would have liked to bash or stone .. but the OP wasn't one of them.  You don't do a job like that unless you like to help people and that is precisely what I was trying to do.  I made some bad choices several weeks ago and people here helped me see the error of my ways.

I grow weary of this discuss however and we will just have to agree to disagree.  

I wasn't talking to you.  I was addressing the thread.  The ascribing motivations was in in response to your post.  I may have hit reply to your post for something else, but the person saying she was posting for specific reasons was who that was for. I have to look back but i think i was responding to something you said about Traci but not this.  Agreeing to disagree is what it's all about but that is not what happened in this thread.  That was my point.

 I apologize for the confusion then.  You hit reply to me directly and I got an email about it so I naturally thought it was directed at me.

 
Post Date: 5/4/12 5:25 am 
I almost feel like you want to get attention by posting this. You want to see how many hits you can get like last time. 

You are only hurting yourself, and a year from now you will disappear because you can't/won't make goal. Please get some counseling. 

You are not a dog that "deserves" food for whatever reason...work, etc.

There, I said it.

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I'm defending this post......not to far off.....what part is not true?

frisco

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You would prefer to see a supportive post:

Hey congrats on the McD's Cheesy Bagel thing working out !!!!

Red Velvet Cake has a spell over me.....I just gotta have it every so often.... I will not deny myself....I'd rather be happy and take a few extra years to get to goal !!!! My happiness is more important. It took me a long time to put this weight on.... I'm gonna take a long time to take it off!

My other must have is Corn Dogs not the frozen ones..... the ones at the Boardwalk where they dip them and fry them right in front of you!!!!! They make me feel whole !!!!
And it's not cheating when they make you feel that good !!!!

frisco


 

first off I read ALL your posts ALWAYS and admire everythin you say and look forward to you pictures of diff types of food.....JMO if she feels she can eat half a bagel and get it out of her system and get back on track and it work for her then why I it sooo wrong.I wouldn't of ate half a bagel but that's just me.BUT if she's back on track don't you think a little bit of positive response instead of saying th girl posted her post because she wanted to get hits on here wasn't rude.Then I must be sensative and just crazy.I'm not making excuses for her or me I'm just saying everything dosent work for everybody is my point.

 *snort* I wish I had not been drinking my coffee when I read this. You own me a new keyboard.