Secret Sleever
The mental journey can be much harder and much more challenging than the diet and exercise. On this journey we get prompted over and over to reflect on our decisions and get to the root of why we do certain things and feel certain things. Why do we feel compulsions to do certain things? Why do we make ourselves feel certain ways? Why do we choose certain language? I was challeneged in my group last night for calling myself a "bad boy" for cheating with some sliced pepperoni. The language we use can be revealing. Not all of the issues we may fight are with food, sometimes food is just a comfort item.
The point that both Ruggie and I were making, independently mind you, is to take a look at WHY you don't want to talk about it with anyone but a select group?
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160 lbs lost. Surgeons Goal Reached in 33 weeks. My Goal in 37 Weeks.
VSG: 11/2/2011; LBL+Thigh Lift+BL: 10/3/2012; Brach+Mastopexy: 7/22/2013
The thing is, now I have friends and co-workers that want to talk because I am a living close example to them and they are now interested and I have a couple friends that are pursuing it.
For me, it was my comfort level when and what to share and it still is.
You know what....this is your decision and your business. I do not feel like I am hiding anything by not telling everyone my business. The people I wanted to know do know and others if they ask I tell them that I am eating high protein, low carb and low calories. Also if they ask how much weight I have lost I say "a lot." That is not a lie.
Good luck on your journey...it will change your life!
"Encourage instead of criticize. Love instead of hate. Hope instead of doubt. Give instead of take. Trust instead of worry. We open our hearts to others so that they will be prompted to open their hearts to God" Lucy Swindoll
You will make the best decision for you on who to share with and when to share.
Ruggie - where did you take the class? It sounds fascinating!
It's a UC Berkeley Extension class in the Project Managment series (I'm working on getting a certificate in Project Management - i thought I'd be done in school after my PhD but noooooo).
extension.berkeley.edu/catalog/course241.html
The instructor was really great in teaching us to look at behavioral drivers.
Ah see - you understand that you classify people into an inner and outer circle, so you understand that driver- which is cool. :)
Me personally, I was worried at first about if I should tell people (other than my parents and closest friends)...not because I was ashamed but because I didn't feel like getting other people's opinions or having them worry about me ...especially family sInce I was having my surgery so young (at 20). But ultimately I decided that I'll tell those who I feel like teling and if anyone specifically asks "how'd you lose all that weight?" then I'd just tell them, "I had weight loss surgery" and thats it. Obviously I'm proud of my decision and the weight that I've lost but mostly, I just don't give a crap if people know. Its my life, my body, my business. Others can be told to promply go kick rocks and blow bubbles else where ^_^
As for what to say, if someone just comments on your weight like "wow you look great" or "have you lost weight?" you can just say a simple "thanks". If they ask you "how", you can just say eating healthier and exercising or somethign to that tune. If they keep asking for more detailed information on your weight loss plan then...well, then thats up to you. You don't have to feel pressured into telling someone anything...you COULD always just ignore the inquiries after all. I mean unless they're offering donate money for future plastics then its really no concern of theirs.
Whatever you decided to do or say, I wish you the best of luck on your journey :) :)
If I had cancer, I wouldn't be shouting it from the roof tops, thats just me personally. So why should I about this?
It's all about your own personal choice.