Ill never understand some people
I never realized how invisible I was at 300lbs but now at at 195 people treat me differently...complete strangers think its ok to talk to me as if they know me. everyone makes eye contact I been ask to be on several committees, WHAT THE HAY!!! if they didnt have time for me then, I dont have time for them now!!!! I did not get smarter and I dont have more to offer just because I lost weight, I cant understand why people are so shallow. I make it a point to make heavy people feel special, I remember how invisible I felt. I still the same person I was heavy, Im just developing an attitude
I'm Still a work in progress, I wont give up the quest to reclaim my life, I will be whole again someday!
HW297 SW269 CW 213
I don't think it's deliberate, I think people feel uncomfortable around those who are different. There are people we don't look at for fear people will think we're staring. The homeless, The disabled, anyone who looks as if they may be talking to themselves or with a tick, the M.O. I think it's just human nature. I think when people lose weight they just seem more "normal" and approachable. I think their instinct just tells them to look away. That's how i see it anyhow. I can't imagine a world where that many people would have malice in their hearts. I think they just see you as approachable now.
People suck for sure. Deliberate or not, that doesn't make it okay. I noticed a huge difference in how I was treated between 396 lbs and 274 lbs and it was kind of weird and uncomfortable that people were so friendly to me because I wasn't used to that. I can't imagine how nice they'll be when I'm 175 
HW: 396 SW: 299 CW: 252 GW: 175
FINALLY BROKE THAT GOD-AWFUL STALL!!!!
FINALLY BROKE THAT GOD-AWFUL STALL!!!!
Could it have been YOU that is truly different in the equasion? I know for ME the way in which people treat me now at 200 is NO different from how they treated me at 345. I made eye contact and those same people would see me and great me and ask me to lunch and open doors for me. I was JUST as outgoing then as I am now.
Let me guess are you dressing better? Have a huge smile planted on your face more often? Are you making eye contact more becasue you don't feel the shame and stigma that overweight people often do? I'm not sure but I find it often that fat people feel less then and therefore often act less then. Iff that's NOT the case in your case then nevermind.
Ms Shell
Let me guess are you dressing better? Have a huge smile planted on your face more often? Are you making eye contact more becasue you don't feel the shame and stigma that overweight people often do? I'm not sure but I find it often that fat people feel less then and therefore often act less then. Iff that's NOT the case in your case then nevermind.
Ms Shell
"WLS is only for people who are ready to move past the "diet" mentality" ~Alison Brown
"WLS is not a Do-Over (repeat same mistakes = get a similar outcome.) It is a Do-BETTER (make lifestyle changes you can continue forever.)" ~ Michele Vicara aka Eggface
Agree 100%. I think it us that changes....and its just easier to see how other people react. As we lose weight....confidence increases, we dress better, might smile more, might be more "out and about", etc. Then when we see positive things from people....we act shocked and think its ALL because we are thinner in their eyes. We forget the other changes we made....physically and mentally.
On the other hand, maybe its the way we have ALLOWED other people to treat us, and dismiss us. but your right lack of confidence is a big problem, I refuse to allow this new thinner person that I'm becoming hold me back, I think I need to allow myself to be happy. still sorting all this out. boils down to the fact that I'm just not comfortable with this new attention.
I'm Still a work in progress, I wont give up the quest to reclaim my life, I will be whole again someday!
HW297 SW269 CW 213
so true. There is just so MUCH emotion that many overweight people carry and never express because of the shame they feel.
It's a lot to sort out. Good luck!!
It's a lot to sort out. Good luck!!
"WLS is only for people who are ready to move past the "diet" mentality" ~Alison Brown
"WLS is not a Do-Over (repeat same mistakes = get a similar outcome.) It is a Do-BETTER (make lifestyle changes you can continue forever.)" ~ Michele Vicara aka Eggface
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