Sad, from Post Secret today...

I saw this today and it made me sad. I sometimes worry about that empty feeling that comes and goes. It was filled with anger the past couple of weeks and I'm slowing making my way out of it.

I have a counselor. I'm working on me. It's important. I hope whoever sent this secret in is able to work on them too.

Just thought I would share. I knew the mental parts of this would be hardest. It got really hard after the "newness" of it started to wear off at 6 months. I'm okay. I will be okay. I got this.

Why is there emptyness? I hoped it would get better, but it sounds like at 6 months it isn't going away on its own. I suppose we have always used food to make us feel better, and without it what do we do? Your not alone...

As my counselor would say... "the hard work starts now". And it is... it's really hard. Most of us have stuff from our pasts that help make us fat, that feed our addiction to food. When that food is gone, it leaves a hole. We can still choose to fill it with food (grazing, ice cream, etc etc), but it really doesn't work the same, right?

But *for me* it didn't magically get better at 6 months, it's kind of the point where the rubber ha**** the road for me. I'm past the "oh, look, I'm losing it, it's working" and that denial that everything will be rosy from here on out - and am now looking at "well, now how do I lose the rest and deal with this whole thing for the rest of my life". 

As much as we all give lip service to being 100% ready for surgery, I think the aftercare is probably the part that we overlook. Oh, I was "ready" with a counselor and a plan and supportive people, but using all of those tools... that's where it gets hard.

Anyway, that secret hit home last night because it's so true for so many of us.

Oh no... you almost made me cry! I'm not ready for that part of it!!! I have about 800000 issues to deal with :( I sure am enjoying the "oh look, I'm losing it, it's working" part and I sure am thinking everything will be rosy. *sigh*

Thank you for talking about the reality of it. I need to start thinking about these things.

I don't think it's fair to say that EVERYONE has those issues an that EVERYONE will go through this phase that I am right now. I mean, everyone is different. So just live in your rosy world for now. LOL! I sure miss mine ;)

Six months is something for me... it's always been six months in any weightloss plan I was following. That's when I'd hit a wall and start gaining again. I felt myself slipping this time and slipped for a while throughout the holidays and early January. I'm back now. I'm working on it.

It's hard and it sucks.

I hope you avoid it :-) xoxo

I highly doubt I will. I have mannnny issues and a highly addictive personality. So far I've given up all of my addictions and food is my last one. I just got out of a long relationship so my codependence is the other one I'm dealing with now. I guess I get to see what demons will come out soon. *sigh* When the rosiness starts to fade I know my emptiness will be there. I'm surprised it wasn't there the second I came out of surgery. I'm surprised the 6 weeks I was home alone recovering I wasn't the most depressed person in the world. I'm seriously surprised that I'm not standing on the edge of a cliff without my burritos right now. At least now I know what's in store...

((Hugs)) Like I said, I hope you avoid it. Mine was probably a long time coming because I've always been resistant to working on my issues. I don't really have a choice now though. I HAVE to deal with them. It sucks. LOL

 hmm.. thought it was only me!  emptyness is a good description.  i thought it was depression (which it very well may be) but lately just have nothing inside me.  could sit on the couch for hours staring at the wall and feel the same way i do during the day while i'm doing things.  

maybe time to go back on my zoloft.  been off since surgery and doing ok except last several weeks.  
thanks for the reminder that it may not get better without help.  wishing good things for you!

Yeah, if you feel like yours is more depression, definitely talk to someone! For me, it's about figuring out how to live the rest of my life. I still have a long way to go (I'm at 257 this morning, down from 375), so I have that aspect too, so angry with myself that I let myself get so overweight before I did something about it (and yes, the point is that I did something, blah blah blah... LOL)

I'm actually doing a lot better than I was 2 weeks ago, I was kind of sucked into this hole of anger and frustration (I blogged about it here, click my username on the left).  I at least feel better about WHY I was so angry. I think it's all part of the process. It's something I have to deal with.

((HUGS)) and I hope you feel better too. One thing that definitely helps me feel better is getting outside or to the gym. It reinforces that I'm working on "me" and I do feel mentally better after getting some endorphins going. Ha. Me. I just said endorphins. Who the heck am I? LOL!!!

 The work does help. I started a year before the surgery when I wasn't even thinking of having surgery.  Then I continued after the surgery to make sure my thinking was not going to sabotage me.  It is important work.  You are so doing the right thing.  I wish more people would get how important it is.