Scary Stuff Going On Here.......
I was simply stating that we are having 2 conversations, and that it is difficult to come to a consensus when the people in the conversation aren’t even on the same page as to what the conversation is about!
You are posting about trends and changes. I haven’t been here long enough to comment on that. Many people, from what I am reading are upset because they feel you are saying they shouldn’t ask questions or that they are stupid (I don’t feel you said that but I can see where they’d get it from). That’s not what I read though. I feel you said that you are seeing more people come who are uneducated in what they have had done or surgeons who don’t care enough to give proper guidance and that scares you for what the numbers might show for this surgery.
My point was strictly, I’m not sure what good this conversation does in this forum. People tend to get defensive when told they are ignorant. It may be a true statement but they’ll turn off everything else you say after just because you said they were ignorant. I’m not sure saying there are more people who are ignorant coming here does any sort of good? I know helping someone in a forum with a specific problem is of course helpful, even if it is a knock upside the head. But a blanket, more people are coming here who don’t know anything, I just don’t see what purpose it serves in THIS forum. I can see it as a conversation among the old timers in your maintenance board, but as its been proven by this thread, it doesn’t do much but **** people off and not in a I’m going to go get more information way but in a screw you I’ll go somewhere else or nowhere at all way.
HW: 270 SW: 234.4 CW: 135.0 1stGW:149 (GOAL MET)afreshstart-hreneeh.blogspot.com/
1st 5k: 5/12/12 44:55 PR 4miles: 12/31/2012 35:49
I was simply stating that we are having 2 conversations, and that it is difficult to come to a consensus when the people in the conversation aren’t even on the same page as to what the conversation is about!
You are posting about trends and changes. I haven’t been here long enough to comment on that. Many people, from what I am reading are upset because they feel you are saying they shouldn’t ask questions or that they are stupid (I don’t feel you said that but I can see where they’d get it from). That’s not what I read though. I feel you said that you are seeing more people come who are uneducated in what they have had done or surgeons who don’t care enough to give proper guidance and that scares you for what the numbers might show for this surgery.
My point was strictly, I’m not sure what good this conversation does in this forum. People tend to get defensive when told they are ignorant. It may be a true statement but they’ll turn off everything else you say after just because you said they were ignorant. I’m not sure saying there are more people who are ignorant coming here does any sort of good? I know helping someone in a forum with a specific problem is of course helpful, even if it is a knock upside the head. But a blanket, more people are coming here who don’t know anything, I just don’t see what purpose it serves in THIS forum. I can see it as a conversation among the old timers in your maintenance board, but as its been proven by this thread, it doesn’t do much but **** people off and not in a I’m going to go get more information way but in a screw you I’ll go somewhere else or nowhere at all way.
Hey hrford..... I think I did a bad.....I musta hit reply in your post...meaning it was directed at you....Sorry my bad. Must post was meant for general consumption....not at you....
But after reading your post......where did I call someone ignorant?
Sorry,
frisco
SW 338lbs. GW 175lbs. Goal in 11 months. CW 148lbs. WL 190lbs.
" To eat is a necessity, but to eat intelligently is an art "
VSG Maintenance Group Forum
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/VSGM/discussion/
CAFE FRISCO at LapSF.com
Dr. Paul Cirangle
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HW: 270 SW: 234.4 CW: 135.0 1stGW:149 (GOAL MET)afreshstart-hreneeh.blogspot.com/
1st 5k: 5/12/12 44:55 PR 4miles: 12/31/2012 35:49
I guess......probably could come up with a few more words.....
I also think your making some very creative assumptions.....
frisco
SW 338lbs. GW 175lbs. Goal in 11 months. CW 148lbs. WL 190lbs.
" To eat is a necessity, but to eat intelligently is an art "
VSG Maintenance Group Forum
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/VSGM/discussion/
CAFE FRISCO at LapSF.com
Dr. Paul Cirangle
Peace Out!
Deb
Goal Reached in 12.5 Months
HW: 274 Pre-OpW: 266 SW: 254 CW: 125 GW: 145
You must permanently change your lifestyle if you want your weight loss to be permanent. You can do it!
Thanks Deb,
Great post....you got me wired !!!
frisco
SW 338lbs. GW 175lbs. Goal in 11 months. CW 148lbs. WL 190lbs.
" To eat is a necessity, but to eat intelligently is an art "
VSG Maintenance Group Forum
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/VSGM/discussion/
CAFE FRISCO at LapSF.com
Dr. Paul Cirangle
I want everyone to succeed at this and unfortunately, there is probably going to be a percentage of people who don't. Some through no fault of their own, and some because they don't know how or don't want to do what it takes.
I'm taken aback at some of the things I read on this board. Common sense stuff that people claim they don't know. Or bury their head in the sand so that they can't know. Mostly I don't comment on those posts because I don't even know how to approach it and be helpful (which is always my intent).
I think this board is somewhat of a scarier place for newbies than it used to be. I dont' think it's bad, but I definitely feel the hesitation in some posters. On one hand, it shouldn't have to be like that because we need a good mix of newbies, middles and vets to make this board as awesome as it can be. But on the other hand, I read some things that blow my mind and I can't even comprehend. Which is why some folks bring out the tough love and then some folks take the the wrong way.
Enough rambling. I don't even know if I had a point in there other than to say that there are some great points made by Frisco and Elina in recent posts. And I hope they and the other vets stick around.
5'5" Goal reached, but fighting regain. Back to Basics.
Start Weight 246 Goal Weight 160 Current Weight 183
Starting size: 22, 2x
Current size: 12, L
I agree with you on all points. Weight loss with the VSG or any other process is a numbers games consisting of calories consumed vs. calories burned. You're never going to lose weight if you consume more calories than you're utilizing.
As for carbs, most of us who have or need WLS have issues with carbs. I'm more than 2 years post-op and have maintained my weight loss but I still monitor my carbs. I expect to always have to be diligent about my carb consumption, I still track my food, but I don't mind this. I expected to change the way I eat by having this surgery.
Prior to the VSG I was hungry all the time and always thinking about what I was going to eat next. Since the VSG I'm rarely hungry and when I think about food it's about how to meet my goals for the day regarding protein, water and limited carbs.
Losing weight and keeping it off takes a conscious effort. It will not happen on its own.
George
I'm not anyone's therapist, never claimed to be, and those of us who come here for support and encouragement need different types of comments and support. No one can or should make you feel a certain way UNLESS you ALLOW IT. It's an internet forum for God's sake, I seriously do not get the comments about being made to feel guilty, stupid, or any other emotion based on comments from a perfect stranger on an internet forum. I personally rarely reply to posts about stalls, or eating off plan during the losing or healing stage anymore. There's plenty of others who can relate to what those posters are going through, and since I can't, I avoid those topics for the most part. I might read them, but I'm 98% sure I won't reply. I also figure everyone here is smart enough to employ the private message feature, and if someone "really" wants to discuss stuff then I'll get a message. I, like Elina, get messages all the time privately regarding these specific issues. I'm always open to talking frankly with someone *****ally wants to be successful. For those who want to be coddled, not work the sleeve, find ways to cheat and eat around it, I'm sure there are others out here who can support that behavior. I can not and will not do it.
Losing was super easy for me. Getting the losing to stop was tricky, maintenance wasn't horribly difficult, and now with a 35lb gain during pregnancy, dropping 22-23lbs of that weight was easy, now these last few pounds aren't budging. SO, what am I doing??? 1) I'm getting through the holidays without stressing 2) After we get back from vacation, I'm going straight back to low carbing it and losing this weight because that is what works for me, and I know that I can and will drop the weight.
SW 270lbs GW 150lbs CW Losing Pregancy Weight Maintenance goal W 125-130lbs