Why there are so many divorces after surgery?

But it depends on the relationship.  People put up with a lot when they don't think they can do, or deserve better.  It's the same with a job.  People feel grateful that they have a job a spouse, et****il they lose wright and begin to feel worthy of more.  Relationships are as good as they are and a lot of people stay put because why bother, same reason we stay fat, but then once one thing changes miraculously and we begin to see, we can change other things too.  WLS is for the most part about putting yourself first, putting your well being above other considerations. if you do it in that area, it can be contagious.  a happy marriage does not crack because of weight loss.  but one with fissures becomes weaker or maybe they just become illuminated.

In my surgeon's seminar, he mentioned this saying that if your relationships is strong before surgery they will get stronger and if weak they will get weaker. He also said you will find out who your true friends are. I know a guy that had the RNY, lost over 300 lbs, and is not with the same woman anymore. I humbly thank God for my husband as he is best friend and one of my strongest supporter's, if not the strongest, throughout my journey.

if a healthy foundation exists beforehand - WLS should have no impact, might even improve.

if there are cracks here / there - one shouldn't expect WLS to fix them, they'll likely get enhanced.

It's not always the WLS-er; sometimes the spouse is the one with low self esteem and has functioned as a saboteur, undermining your weight loss efforts because of their own fears and insecurities.  They put themselves ahead of your happiness and good health.

 I have to be honest, if I wasn't totally devoted to my husband I could have already gotten myself in some big trouble. Men have come out of the wood work, and I have been getting attention from men that never would have even looked at me before. I think sometimes people settle, and then when they lose the weight and gain confidence they realize they can do better, and bingo, divorce. 

It's the ***** phenomenon!  I think some women get caught up in dressing provocatively after losing weight.  For some, it fuels the need for attention or constant affirmation regarding their looks.  With attention comes opportunities....with opportunities comes new options. 

In all honesty, there are a myriad of reasons marriages fail.  WLS is a major life changer and like any other major life event, a marriage has to absorb the change and grow positively. 

I feel I am lucky, married my hubby when I was thin, been fighting overweight since having babies, he's loved me through it all. Now I am just giving him back the package he bought so to speak. He has always been devoted to me and the only difference now is that I am more receptive because I like myself more now and it's only been 6 weeks!

Just love my sleeve, I am starting to feel like me again!

I can only speak from my own experience, which was overwhelmingly positive.   I honesly found that the surgery has helped to strengthen my relationship instead of of hurting it. 

Before surgery I was pretty unhappy with my relationship with my husband.  I blamed it on him not being "enough" (not supportive enough, not making enough money, not helping with the kids enough, not home enough, not paying enough attention to me, etc.)  What I've discovered is that I was blaming my perfectly charming (supportive, nice, respectful and responsible) husband for my own insecurities. 

Once I had the surgery, I started feeling better about myself, which meant I started feeling better about my relationship with my husband.  If anything before surgery, I was the one ruining my marriage.  Now I feel like both my husband and I are equal partners in our life together and I have more respect for HIM. 

Luckily I didn't marry a douchebag.  And luckily this surgery helped to turn me into less of a douchebag .