had the tlk with my mom about surgery

So dont know if many of you replied to my post last week about coming out to my moms aboutt he surgery. Well I finally told her and the response was not as bad as i expected. on the contrary she was actually pretty ok with it. not that I needed her ok to go ahead with it but the support was what I was looking for as our relationship is a work in progress. her initial response was" imagine how far ahead you would be if you had the surgery last yr"-

She is cool aboout it and i bleve a bit relieved that I am doing somrething about my weight> while I know the appearance factor is imprtant to her, i still know she worries about ym health too.

Well May would be my last mponth of my 6month workup and I have three clearances, still need to see the psych. so hopefully I can have my surgery by late May or early June.

Thanks again guys for your support. I love it when I can talk to ppl who can relate to what I am going thry having been there once or going thu ir now. and to the veterans, I absolutely look forward to and ejoy your words of wisdom.

Thats great news sweetie,  i'm so glad it all went so well.  Being a Mom myself i can honestly say we want our kids to be healthy and happy and you are definatly on your way to being healthier and happier.   So pleased for you :o) jeani

I totally understand the feeling of telling someone close to you about the surgery.  I had been researching and had made the decision to do it before I told my husband.  I was so scared to tell him but he was so supportive.  He was great, he knows that I will be a much happier person if I did not hate my weight so much.  After telling him, I had to them tell my mom, she was great too.  She is alittle more scared for me but happy I will be healthier when I weigh less.  My surgery date is May 16th and I am so anxious to my life to change.  Good luck with you surgery date.

At this time I don't plan to notify my family. I live 4 hours away and like you, it's a work in progress. Thank you for sharing your decision. It may help me decide differently as the time for surgery gets closer.

yeah, my mom had an interesting response when i told her....  "oh, i'm so glad you're finally doing something!  i've been so woried about you!"...


um...  let's see, i went on weigh****chers for the first time at age 17 (and on 3 additional occasions), tried every stinkin' diet i could get my hands on for the next 35 years, lost and gained about 300 lbs - or more - collectively....  yeah, i'm FINALLY doing something..... something that WORKS!!

but she is very supportive now, and even brags on me -- a first for her!!  



jeris

My moms is the only one I have told (besides EVERYONE here ;) - she was way supportive and is almost as excited about it as I am...

I had to tell someone as I needed a ride back from the hospital!
If anyone else asks after I start losing I will just say I'm on Atkins again.
I have been through "Thick and Thin" many times - so no one but me and my mom have to know.
Its a personal choice for everyone...Oh, my Dad knows - but he is a PCP in Vegas and had the RNY himself 3 years ago.
Best of luck in your journey!

J

I'm so glad it went well for you, and I hope your mom can be supportive through the challenges that go along with surgery and lifestyle changes.  I had a similar situation, and my revelation did not go as well.  Now I'm faced with having to tell my mom (sometime this week) that I'm having plastic surgery.  She only just forgave me for having weight loss surgery!  Needless to say, I'm not looking forward to it!

What a relief! I am glad it went so well for you! I have told anyone that will listen! lol. I am just so excited! I am extremely close with my Dad n Step Mom, but telling them was hard.. I guess because we are so close, I was worried that they wouldnt approve... But they did immediately. Anyway, Yay for you!!!

Well you are stronger (or smarter) than I am. I haven't told my mom yet. I was sleeved 4/7. All is going very well. I will see her in 5 months (I am currently out of the country), so it was easy to not tell her. Although I would like her support, I am afraid she will not be positive about it, and then goes the rumors with everyone she knows - FB, etc. UGH! Maybe secretly I want to just show up in 5 months and show her, instead of telling her now.....