backhanded NSV...
Then Friday I had to go buy my Easter outfit. We got the rest of the fam's 2 weeks ago. The dress I found which was perfect didn't fit. So my husband suggested going and trying it again. So I took my spanks and went back and it fit!! SOOOO happy.
Colored eggs with the fam on Saturday and made a scavenger hunt for the kiddos for this morning. Then today we got up, way to early lol, and went to the Son-rise service at church. Afterwards we had breakfast at church. I got 3 compliments on my dress and 'how nice it looked on me' It's been so long since that has happened. The best one was probably from my ex's mom (my daughter's grandma) and she rarely talks to me. But said 'I just have to tell you how WONDERFUL you look. you're face is glowing and you are triming down awesomely!' then she says 'if I didn't know based on you're happy face I'd think you were pregnant, but you don't "look" pregnant' lmao
So this evening we went to my hubby's family for dinner and they called his grandma and she was asking about my surgery (she was on speaker phone, which I don't think she realized) First off I was already a bit upset because my husband told his family about surgery even though I asked him not to. So I'm assuming his sister told his grandma, since he hasn't talked to her since Christmas and I didn't know about doing this at that time. But anyway he was explaining certain aspects of it all and she responds with...."well it's about time she did something, I really don't know why she let herself go like that and why she couldn't just get up and lose the weight already. But I am happy for you, the last thing you need honey is to be attached to someone who just sits around and gets bigger and bigger"
I'm sure I don't have to explain how hurt I feel. The worst part though was the embarassment. It just burns inside of me. My husband didn't say anything except 'well it's really not like that' but he told me later he just didn't want to cause a scene in front of everyone (his dad, sister, brother in law and all the kids) I do agree with him, and I'm not upset with him. I've known since day one that his mom and grandma are obsessed with weight. Making inappropriate comments at inappropriate times, but this was the worst ever.
All in all it was a great weekend. I guess in every perfect day there is always a dark spot.
I am glad you had such a good week end. It is too bad that grandma and MIL have such a pissy attitude, but HEY... thank God you don't have to live with either of them!
When people are like this it just shows they are fools. Shake their dust off your feet and know that you are just fine no matter what size and just as worthy of respect and dignity no matter what size.
One of my husband's sisters was always making comments about how HUGE I was and introduced me to a new family member as :Miss Piggy" once. I just calmly walked out of the house and got in the car. My husband and HER husband both told her off... Then my husband and I wenty home (in another city). My mother in law tried to smooth things over by telling me that it was because my sister in law left school when she was in the 9th grade and is not smart!!! I know other people who dropped out of school who are more intellegent than some college grads... one thing I do know, no one else I have ever known was ever stupid enough to hurt and embarass someone like that woman did me that day. I got even by genuinely treating her just as nice as I always had.
The funny thing is... I only weighed about 175 then!
Oh yeah... she did apologise... more than 10 years later. LOL!!!!!!
I do hope grandma finds out that she was on the speaker phone and you heard... a little humble pie never hurt anyone.
What a nasty, venomous old hag!
I'm sorry but that's just something someone (esp in the family) should never say - even if they think its a private conversation.
I would hire an old guy, a couple of women and a camera man...Have them knock on the old bags door with a big "Publishers Clearing House Check"...Then break the news...Sorry! Danielle just thought you could use a good laugh!
Or at least do the classic "flaming bag-o-dog crap" on her doorstep...
Glad the rest of your day was good.
J