Back handed compliments, oh my...
On April 3, 2011 at 8:04 PM Pacific Time, sleevedup wrote:
As a guy I sure hope my weight loss didn't cause a storm of estrogen loose in my system :).But most people mean no harm with their comments, I personally will always identify myself as a fat guy...I'm not sure anyone else understands that since I've slimmed up so much.
Try to always take the positive side of any comments, and if anyone gets outta line give 'em the finger literally or figuratively and keep rollin :)
I've been running into people I haven't seen in six months or a year...their reactions are priceless, keep in mind also your success plays on other people's insecurities...keep doin what you're doing and be good with you.
HW: 294 SW: 287 Surgery Weight: 271.6 CW: 218.2
I think you can turn any compliment around if you think about it. For instance mostly people who have seen my weight loss have said things like "you look great" or "you look fantastic!". I might just take that as, I didn't look great or fantastic BEFORE, you know?
But I know people mean well and they just might not know how to say things on this sensitive subject.. and what's worse is that we are so self conscious and sensitive we are bound to take it differently then intended.
I've also had people ask me "have you lost weight?" and can't help but think, I didn't start getting these comments until after I had lost well over 100 pounds.. wow do they "really" need to ask? Can't they tell? But then I guess when you are fat being a little less fat isn't as noticeable to others.
But I know people mean well and they just might not know how to say things on this sensitive subject.. and what's worse is that we are so self conscious and sensitive we are bound to take it differently then intended.
I've also had people ask me "have you lost weight?" and can't help but think, I didn't start getting these comments until after I had lost well over 100 pounds.. wow do they "really" need to ask? Can't they tell? But then I guess when you are fat being a little less fat isn't as noticeable to others.
Start weight: 388, Current Weight: 185, Goal Weight: 180, Weight Lost: 203 lbs
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Ahh.. When my aunts would look at pics of me they would always say to my mom: "Awwe, Fawn used to be the prettiest girl I knew..Oh- you mean until I ate myself and turned hideous.. I have 17 aunts, so I had to start just letting it roll off. Hugs!
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