Back handed compliments, oh my...
So many people dont understand the dynamics of obesity and weightloss surgery. People post everyday about the stupid things people say about these things...
I saw my dad's family for the first time in a few months this evening..Everyone commented on my weight loss..the comment that took the cake went something like this:
'Wow, you are starting to look like the picture on the wall again (as she points to a photo from 2001 ( I was 17, 155lbs, and anorexic-ish)...' I guess it was supposed to be a compliment but it was a little embarassing for me. I felt like saying, yea I'm starting to look more normal and acceptable and less like the blob that was slothing my way around, unrecognizable from my old self...
Arg..I know it shouldnt bother me but these post-surgery hormones make me sensative..
thanks for listening.
Sassy
HW: 258lbs SW: 240 CW: 140 I am 5 foot 7 and 30 years old
VSG 12/21/10 Plastics: Tummy tuck, breast lift, and augmentation 11/3/11
Soon to be veterinarian!! xoxo
Having said that, I think most people don't realize when they're saying something hurtful, and we ARE oversensitive, sometimes. I think she probably thought you'd be all excited to know she thought you looked younger and thinner, in her mind. Most people mean well, it just come out in an awkward way.
From what I have heard losing your fat stores releases hormones into the system (estrogen?) which can make some people very moody, depressed, manic.
I actually had to go back on anti-depressants because my moods were so up and down. I have only used anti-depressants twice before in my life for short periods of situational depression and this was one of the times I finally had to suck it up and ask the doctor to script me some Zoloft STAT. I am actually feeling alot less moody but still have my days and moments..
If you have a significant other I strongly suggest you prepare them now so they arent freaked out by the possible storm headed their way...
Sometimes I just wish people could say, "wow you've lost a lot of weight.. you look great" and leave it at that. Don't throw in some comarison that you're starting to look like you did before...
~Kelby~ HW: 356 SW: 330 CW:231 GW: 175 I'm 5'6"
"Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be."
I know it was not meant to be hurtful..I think I am very sensitive in general to comments about my weight...
I love my new suit though and wanted to show it off, and my new camera ..thanks for the compliments!
HW: 258lbs SW: 240 CW: 140 I am 5 foot 7 and 30 years old
VSG 12/21/10 Plastics: Tummy tuck, breast lift, and augmentation 11/3/11
Soon to be veterinarian!! xoxo
But most people mean no harm with their comments, I personally will always identify myself as a fat guy...I'm not sure anyone else understands that since I've slimmed up so much.
Try to always take the positive side of any comments, and if anyone gets outta line give 'em the finger literally or figuratively and keep rollin :)
I've been running into people I haven't seen in six months or a year...their reactions are priceless, keep in mind also your success plays on other people's insecurities...keep doin what you're doing and be good with you.
