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I'm currently waiting on an approval from insurance (I'm sure everyone in here knows how it is)... and I'm really stressed out. I keep going from one extreme to another about how much I really do want and need the surgery, and I'm afraid that I will never come to a solid reality about how I feel about this. Right now, I know that I need the surgery and if I don't have it, I may very well never lose the weight, as I have been trying my whole life, and at the rate that I've been gaining my weight, I'll probably weight close to 400 lbs, by the time I'm 30. I just don't know how to reassure myself that it will all be ok, and that this is the right decision. Can anyone give me any advice that may be able to help me in this decision making process, as soon it may be too late.

FOR ME THIS WAS THE BEST THING I EVER DID. IF NOT I WAS GOING TO DIE. AND BOY DO I LOVE LIFE. THATS WHY I HAD THE VBG. MY DOC. PUT THE BAND AROUND MY TUMMY. AND I TOOK IT FROM THERE I NEVER HAD ANY PAIN. IF I HAD TO I WOULD DO IT AGAIN WITH MY EYES CLOSE.(SMILE) I HOPE THAT NEVER HAPPEN. BUT YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE THIS IS WANT YOU WANT. IF YOU'R NOT SURE PRAY ABOUT IT, AND TALK IT OVER WITH YOUR LOVE ONES.I FEEL THE VBG WAS THE BEST SURGERY FOR ME. EVEN THOUGH IT WILL TAKE ME ONE YEAR TO LOSS 100LBS. SO THE ONES WHO HAVE THE BIG ONE,(THAT'S WHAT I CALL IT SMILE) CAN LOSS 100LBS. IN 6 MONTHS. I DON'T MINE THE WEIGHT COMING OFF SLOWER. BUT WHAT EVER YOU DO MAKE SURE THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT TAKE CARE YOUR VBG SISTER. ROBIN

trust yourself calm down and focus I am going in 4/22 to do vbg and I also went through the should I syndrome especially when I was considering rny it seemed like too much for me I am comfortable with my decision to have this vbg I am happy about the new life that I am facing. I did a lot of soul searching b4 reaching this point I am confident that I want to be thinner and healthier and more attractive .I believe that this will do wonders for my physical stamina and self esteem. I understand that this is a tool and that confronting my demons food, poor self image, etc that will be the work. learning to love myself fully enough to put down the fork. and excercise I had to visualize my new regimen and new life in my mind first b4 I could claim it in the real world. This is my take on the situation Good Luck

Hi Katherine, I had the same experience as you are having while I was waiting on approval. It's very normal but I must say that WLS was the best thing that ever happened to me! But it took me 4 years of research to decide it was right for me. During those 4 years I also lost 50 pounds for 2 seconds and put 65 back on. Then I decided I was gonna have the RNY and due to a shorter than normal small intestine I ended up with the VBG. I wouldn't change a thing. I am so grateful everyday for this experience. It's really been wonderful and if you want this for yourself it will happen for you! My advice is to stay as positive as you can...it's normal to question your decision. This is a lifechanging experience, so of course you are apprehensive, but for me it was so worth all the ups and downs pre-op Big Hugs, Sara 356/266/175