Did you?
Okay, I realize I'm full of questions today but I start the liquid diet on Monday and so it's becoming very real to me now.
Did you write letters to your spouse/family/children/loved ones just in case you didn't make it through the surgery or had a nasty complication afterward and died? I'm considering doing this because I want my kids to know I didn't do this for vanity. I'm doing it for them. I want to be an active person in their life. I don't want to die of diabetes or sleep apnea. I don't want them to be embarrassed of their mom. I'm also doing it for those same reasons for myself. So anyway, just wondering what others' thoughts were on the subject.
Did you write letters to your spouse/family/children/loved ones just in case you didn't make it through the surgery or had a nasty complication afterward and died? I'm considering doing this because I want my kids to know I didn't do this for vanity. I'm doing it for them. I want to be an active person in their life. I don't want to die of diabetes or sleep apnea. I don't want them to be embarrassed of their mom. I'm also doing it for those same reasons for myself. So anyway, just wondering what others' thoughts were on the subject.
Jamie
Starting wt./surgery wt/current/goal
251/239/105/130
I gained 10 lbs.! Wooohooo!
Hi Jamie,
I thought long and hard about this and everytime I went to write them I just cried so I decided in the end to not write anything. I did not want my son to grow up feeling that he was to blame if I died thinking I had done it for him.....
So I just decided I was not going to die and put that paper away and did not do it.
But everyone is different and it is a very personal thing.....
Good luck in whatever you decide to do........
Jackie
I thought long and hard about this and everytime I went to write them I just cried so I decided in the end to not write anything. I did not want my son to grow up feeling that he was to blame if I died thinking I had done it for him.....
So I just decided I was not going to die and put that paper away and did not do it.
But everyone is different and it is a very personal thing.....
Good luck in whatever you decide to do........
Jackie
Good pm,
No, I didn't write anything to my family &/or friends. They all knew how I felt. I made my thoughts & feelings widely known. The only thing I asked is IF in the event something were to happen to me, Kayla would be given my journals. In my gut I knew that anything was possible but also that I would live to see another day. Its normal to have these thoughts and feelings. To each his/her own in my opinion.
No, I didn't write anything to my family &/or friends. They all knew how I felt. I made my thoughts & feelings widely known. The only thing I asked is IF in the event something were to happen to me, Kayla would be given my journals. In my gut I knew that anything was possible but also that I would live to see another day. Its normal to have these thoughts and feelings. To each his/her own in my opinion.
Kitty Kat - Lap RNY 29th Jan 03 
Blessed Momma to ♥ Kayla & Nora ♥
Sober since 25th Aug 07 www.the-butterfly-chronicles.blogspot.com
Thankful for the easy, grateful for the hard & hopeful for tomorrow.
Yep...I wrote letters and cards and tucked them away. I did not tell anyone because I knew I was coming home and I would be fine. I did leave them in a place where I knew they would be found quickly in the event that something did happen. I retrived them when I got home and my family never saw them or knew about them. Like the others have said...we are all different!
Tammy C
down 260+ pounds and loving life more than ever!!!
proud mom to Kara 12-08-1994 and our newest addition Claire Makenna born 03-26-09 weighing 6 lbs 13 ounces and 19.25 inches long and very healthy. happily dating...i honestly never knew it could be this good! there is that special Guy for everyone out there...either you already have him or you will find him when He is ready for it!
open RNY 04-25-2005
Life could not get any better than this!
Yep. I wrote letters. I never told anyone I did it for them though. Imagine the guilt they would feel if something did happen. I told them each how much I loved them(although they already were clear on that) I wrote letters to my son for his graduation day and day he got married. Hey you never know. I have them in my safe box at home. I could walk in traffic and get killed tomorrow. Having them there makes me feel better.
Mom to Alex age 9
Wife to Sean married 5/29/99
And one bean on the way. EDD 6/22/11
Wife to Sean married 5/29/99
And one bean on the way. EDD 6/22/11
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