Update & explanation

So I've been missing for awhile now & I'm sorry for that.  Things have been rough lately.

It's official as of today.  My sister, Cyndi, does indeed have cancer.  Unfortunately I still don't know what kind because when I spoke to her she was bombed on morphine & very, very stressed.  The whole family is still reeling from this turn of events for Cyndi.  Of all of us (6 siblings), she is the healthiest as far as practices goes.  She's never smoked a day in her life, she rarely drinks, she eats healthy, exercises regularly, & breastfed all 3 of her kids.  So she came down with breast cancer 8 years ago & beat it.  And now this.  We're all having a hard time wrapping our brains around this & it's certainly testing our faith.

With that said, now comes the explanation.  I have stayed away because I just don't have the patience I SHOULD have in order to be helpful here.  I tried early on but it backfired on me & my whole message was misconstrued.  I am never at a loss for words, but I do notice & am willing to admit publicly that my objectivity is just not up to speed.  My patience level is really out of whack & I realize that that is caused by all the worry & stress.  Because of that, I would rather NOT respond than to say something that might come out hurtful only because I am not myself right now.  Even now I am struggling to choose my words wisely so that nobody feels badly.  So until my family can get through this crisis with Cyndi, or until I start feeling more in control in an out-of-control situation, I think it best that I keep my opinions/suggestions/comments to myself.  I will continue to TRY to stay up on current events by way of reading your posts, but I just don't trust my own judgement right now to say the right thing in the proper way.  Does any of this make sense?  I sure hope so.  I miss you all so much...really I do.  I thank you for your patience with me & your understanding.  I also remain  your staunchest supporter & wish only the very best for each of you.

I remain your friend & "sister"!
 

Ann please do not stay away to long. We will pray for your sister and for your family. If there is anything that we can do you for please let us know. We are all family and when one is hurting we all hurt to an extent. Love ya as a sister.

Ann, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers

 Ann, I am so sorry to hear about Cyndi. I can understand a little bit the stress you're going through. Cathy, my wife, is a breast cancer surviver and can't stop worrying that what has happened to Cyndi will happen to her. I lost my sister and Mother to cancer and it just doesn't seem fair that the people who take good care of themselves should get hit with this.

Praying for you and your sister. Your Bro

Michael

MIchael, so nice to see you!  How have things been?

Well, in some ways very good. I truely love the 10 minute commute to work. And I love having an extra few hours each night with my wife. On the other hand, Cathy has not been able to find a job here and it is making it tough for us finanacially. (We now have all three kids in college) I also do not have a bariatric surgeon in this area and I have gone back to most of my bad habits.  Gained some of my weight back. Everything to eat here is high salt, deep fried and topped with heavy gravy. All the things I love and shouldn't eat.

But I love the people here and I enjoy my job. So all I have to do is find a way to get back on track physically.

I miss all of you and your support.

Hey we are still here for you!!!  Jackie started a new phone call support group you can participate in.  The next one is in a few weeks.  Go back to your basics.  You have the tool & know how to use it.  Enjoy those extra hours with your wife and exercise together.  I will keep you all in my thoughts & prayers.

Michael....

Welcome back!!!  How are you and the new job?  We miss you.

I'm new to the OH Virginia forum but wanted to tell you your family and sister are in my prayers. I am a survivor of cervical cancer and know how difficult it can be on everyone involved. Keep the faith and stay strong

Hi Melanie & welcome!!!!