Speaking Out!

I just want to send my love, my hugs and my support.  Keep faith in yourself and you will pull through this past year which was rough.

Failure is a harse word.  I hope that NO ONE feels this way about themselves.  We have come too far, made difficult decisions, dealt with our obesity, survived our obesity, or continue to work on it...  We are all here for each other, all sharing the same battle, whether we are just staring, just losing, just stalling, tweaking things to make more changes or maintaining.  I'm glad to share my journey with you and TOGETHER we will have the support we each need.   LOVE YOU BABE!!

Melinda:  You are a terrific source of support for so many on this Board.  Know that we are here for you when you need that same support and friendship.  :)

Melinda,  I do understand how you feel and you have a right to vent as you have issues that are bothering you. We are ALL here to help you though this and I offer up anything or any services I can do to help you.

But I also think you are being a little over sensitive because people post how THEY feel just like you are posting how YOU feel. I am sure no-one meant anything by it  but it was how they felt at the time they wrote it. I remember when I was first post-op - the thought of gaining one pound scared me to death! I was so afraid of what I called failure - and it is a real fear for new post ops - just like it is for you now.....

Melinda - you have a heart as big as the universe - and we all love you to bits. We are all sorry that you feel the way you are  feeling now and I think you have felt it for some time now - but now you can deal with it since the wedding is over.

My advice is what you have heard from others - go back to the doctor and nutritionist and get some tests done to measure your pouch and stoma in case they have stretched - if they have they can fix it - if not you know you need to get back on track.... get on a back on track eating plan - and I can help you with that - but somewhere from within you are going to have to come out fighting and kick the butt of bad choices and get back to a plan you can follow.......

But you are right - you are not a FAILURE!!  No-one here is a failure - look at what steps we all took to get our lives back !!!!! - That is not the action of failures - these are the actions of HEROES - we may have set backs but we can overcome these together!

Girl I love you and you can do this!!

Jackie


 

Melinda, you are not a failure. There are others able to do things we cannot. I do understand that part. I do what I can with stretch band, trying to work some with simple things on my ball. If nothing but walking in place while I do the dishes it is something. Sometimes cuttin a little jig when the music is on. Thats definately an adjustment with screws and rods in my back. Sometimes just simple cleaning is my workout and I sure pay for it.
I dont do everything perfect and give kudos to those that can. Just remember some that proclaim that they do may also falter at times, we all have shortcomings in one way or another.
Now that the wedding is behind you maybe you will have time to focus on YOU and get on track more. I definately have room for improvement.
Sometimes the limitations life has given me make me feel like I am not doing all I can. This is not a race. We all struggle and need support. You definately give enough of it. Thats not a race either to see who can do the most. The oppurtunity is open to all, no matter where you are in life. We all have something to bring to the table.
Look at how far you have come. When I met you there was a wheelchair and oxygen attached. You have been there for my drs appts when no one was or could be. You were there when I had back surgery.
We can do this, all with support from others. Take what you can for helpful suggestions and leave the rest. Little things and adjustments can help me in some way.
I havent been able to stand alot of water or crystal light due to burn out from it. I have switched to decaf tea with splenda at home. That is working for me right now. If I have it ready to grab it is much easier than having to rush on the way out the door. You are worth the few minutes it takes to get this done. I have to find something for now for protein too. I have some but my body has reacted to some sugar free things lately and the protein I have just turns my stomach with the sweetness. Meat has been my protein, or just going back to basics from the beginnning if its only adding powdered milk to get a few extra grams here and there. Carbs are my enemy right now. They are quick and easy when Im not feeling up to cooking or nothing is readily available.
I know I will be able to handle the protein again when my body adjusts or finishes what ever its going thru. For the last few days I cant even eat alot at a time. Tummy gets grouchy. So I have to do small meals, just for strength and vitamins. I put the snacks up. Out of sight, out of mind helps alot sometimes for me. They are treats for once in a blue moon. I got into the bad habit when I was totally down and felt like doing nothing due to health problems.
Take it easy and listen to your body. Set small goals at a time instead of a total overhaul unless you can handle the drastic change. I try to remember from the beginning when I was so ready for surgery and so mentally prepared for what I needed to do.
This may come more natural to some but I know I have to plan.
You arent a failure. Some make jokes about people that may mess u*****t do things perfectly. If the truth be know they probably arent either so dont sweat that.
Hugs,
Shannon

Hi Melinda,
  Thank you for posting how you are feeling about this journey...which can be frustrating at times.
You have done wonderful, thus far. In three years you have lost an incredible amount of weight...and are with us.
    Celebrate your new life as a bride...you as a student with A's...our Meet and Greet leader.
    Thank you for all that you have taught me in the past year.
 Peace and love to you.
 Cindy

Heyyy miss Prissy, I can relate to you in more ways than one. As you know or may not know, I originally had the band done and that wasn't working for me and finally got the insurance co to spring for the RNY and that seemed to jumpstart my system. I'm certainly not losing as fast as I want either, but I'm not doing everything I'm supposed to do either. I just don't have the time to do all this stuff. I'm sure there are others out there that find it just as hard and I will certainly keep you in my prayers and thoughts to get over this hurdle in your life. Come on woman, you can do it and I have all the confidence in you to make it happen. BTW, congrats on your wedding. Hope to see ya on the 11th..Take care and God Bless.... Jim