What do you do when your whole world collapses?

Lisa-
Having just gone through this (and not with the result I pray for you), I can tell you that you just have to find it in you to keep going. I cried A LOT at first...even now I feel overwhelmed by it sometimes. The eating was a coping mech. that you used in the past...you just have to find something new...it's so not easy and honestly that makes this situation even more difficult. Be committed on making your marriage work, be honest with yourself and him about what is going on. Obviously I don't have the answers, only God knows how this will turn out for you, but I do know that God will be and give you everything you NEED.

I'm not that far from Purcellville....PM me if you'd like to get together to chat or just need a hug. As someone who is now acutely of the emotions, I can simply say....hang in there and take care of yourself.

Hi Lisa,

Seperation and divorce is difficult on all of you. I've been there too. My ex left very suddenly and without warning. My son was 8 years old and he had a difficult time adjusting.
First and foremost you must take care of yourself. Keep reaching out to those of us who will support you. You have a huge extended family here on OH.and thankfully your church as well.
Every day look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself what a GOOD person you are. You are STRONG, you are BEAUTIFUL and you have two darling children *****ally need their mom right now. 

lots of hugs and love

Oh Lisa,

 I do not even know you, but I do know your pain/heartache.  One of the reasons I moved out of Massachusetts was from a break up.  It was so painful I couldnt even stay in the same state as him any longer....   Luckily I have a sister here in VA and found a wonderful job, and this support group too.    I know that eating was also my comfort prior to the surgery and found that other coping mechanisms kicked in.... and were NOT too healthy afterwards...

Please PM if you would like.. I would be happy to give you my ph # if you wanted to speak on the phone even.    I do understand the pain of a loss.   I was with my ex for a long time (we met in high school and he was in my life for over 18 years!)  I thought after losing all the weight everything would be perfect... but I was still "me"....    It does get better, but you have to give yourself time to heal, and like other said... cry, and do feel your pain. 

I send a hug and a smile.   I am so sorry for your sadness.   Please know it is ok to feel sad, and that you did nothing wrong. 

friendship,
Jill

Separation does not mean divorce. Maybe come time apart and counseling will help. Keep yourself and your kids on the right path. We will all pray for you. When things seem impossible get on the board and vent. It does help!
SherylLynn

I am sorry about what you are going though.  My husband and i had a seperation for 7 months about 2 years into ourrelationship.  I will say, feel your emotions. You need to go through this and let it out. You need to experience  your emotions and understand them. 

When we had seperated, I could not use my normal coping mechinisms because of the state I was in.  I was forced to face them and my deamons head on.  I then went deep inside and discovered who I really was and what I was.  We are back together now.  But people think i am crazy when i saw, as much as it was a very painful time in my life, it was the best thing that ever happened to me.  The person that emerged on the other side had accomplished so much!  Many hugs and we are here for you if you need us!