OT -- Boyfriend's grandmother's funeral

So my boyfriend's grandmother passed away today. I hadn't met her.

They are having a viewing on Thursday, and the funeral this Friday.

Now, here is my problem: She lived in Rhode Island. Pete and his family will be traveling up on Wednesday to take care of things, and will be returning Saturday or Sunday. I asked him if he wanted me to go with him, and he told me that he would like me to be there, but that he understood that it might be difficult for me to take off the last three days of the week on such short notice.

I feel like I should be there for him and his family (his parents and I are friendly, but I'm not over there hanging out with them when he's not around), but I'm not sure whether or not I should go. Help?? Anyone??

More information: Pete and I have been dating a little over two years, have been living together almost that long, and have plans to be married sometime in the nearish future. It's not like this is some guy I'd only dated once or twice.

Thanks in advance!

Julie

Julie - I am sorry to hear about his grandmother....

Well -  I am not into funerals BUT you have been together over 2 years and live together  - so really his family is your family.... my guess is he would probably like you to be there with him - for moral support and to help him escape when he needs to...

Good luck on whatever you decide....


Jackie

Hi Julie,

I'm sorry for your boyfriend's loss, as well as indirectly your loss too since you know his parents. Since you are living together as well as intending to marry, yes, go to the funeral if you can get off from work.

Diana

Julie-
It can't hurt to ask if you can get the time off....with the holiday weekend it may be difficult but worth the shot for your sweetie as he's undoubtedly hurting at the loss of his grandmother.

Best to you and him as you make your decision.

I agree with the others - if you are able to take the time from work, I would go to the funeral.  My thoughts will be with him and his family in this difficult time.  Good luck and I hope your work is understanding.

Julie sorry to here about your b/f's grandmother know you all will be in my thoughts and prayers. As the others have said Id try to go if you could you been together for 2 years and you will be married one day. Have a safe trip. 

Hey, Julie:  The others have said it all -- if you two were just starting to date, it wouldn't make sense, but with you two being together that period of time and living together with plans to marry, it will be important to him and his family to have you there, I think.  Being a comfort to him during this time is something that he will always remember, take my word for it.  If you end up going, have a safe trip and please pass on our condolences to your boyfriend for us.  :)

If you can get them time off work, you really should be there. U have been together for awhile and would say people would probably expect you there. Sorry to hear for the loss to his family

Hey Julie,

I'm probably one with a bit of a different perspective on things. So, that being said here goes. If you have the time to take off; wonderful if you don't you can still "be there" for him in other ways. Send along your condolences via card with flowers or something of the like, stay in constant contact and be supportive and be reminded that you're there when he needs you. In any event, hopefully you've gotten the time or at least some of it to go.

Hugs.....

I think that making the effort to see if you can get off of work to be there for him is definitely worth it.  I am sure that he would appreciate you being there for him.