ot--frustrated

So today I woke up feeling really good and positive and was to meet with Dorrie at Mt. Trashmore to walk.  While I was in the shower I got a call from my lawyer that I needed to call him ASAP.  I did, only to find out that my daughters father told DCSE that I am neglecting my child.  That he has on numerous occasions found me to not be home at late hours of the night.  First off, why is he checking up on me?  He has a newborn, so why is he out late at night, secondly what business is it if I go out on a Friday or Saturday if my mother is watching the baby?  Why do people feel like they still need to run your life even after you've moved on?  Needless to say I missed my walk, and now am in a funk.    Sorry just had to vent....

That is rough Jennifer! Looks like he wants to make life tough for you! Hang in there - you will find out what he wants soon enough but as long as the baby is not neglected and has good supervision there should not be an issue. Besides you will probably now end up with a visit for social services who will clear you and he will be left looking like the vindictive person he is...

Maybe he hasn't moved on yet....... or is just vindictive.... but he is still your daughter's father and you are going to have to deal with him for many years.... so be careful...

Jackie

Jennifer,

Ok, I have tried to type this three times and keep getting interrupted at work, so hopefully this one is the time that I can finish!
I have been thru this myself.  My ex wanted to make me have to jump thru hoops and make me look bad because he thought I would give up and drop the pursuit of chid support in favor of not having to deal with all of the government agencies.  I did not give up and not he is well over a hundred thousand dollars in arrears.  He thought it would work, but alas...nope, I won that battle.  I am sure I will never see any where close to the amount of child support owed but at least I can hold my head high knowing that I did not need him to raise her.  I have had unending support from my family but no support from him or his family.
How does he know that you are out?  Just because your car isn't there doesn't really mean much, now does it?  You could have lent your friend your car, it could be in the shop overnight, etx. 
He is just trying to get you all frazzeled.  Don't give in to him.  You are better than that and your daughter needs you to stand up for yourself and her.  I am here if you need to talk!

 OH NO...
I'm sorry!!

Thanks guys!! I'm sure he assumes i'm out since it is "my car" however my brother and I share the car as well as my mom uses it.  Its just bleh.  For all I know he and the other girl have hit a rough patch and he's looking for a way to get me to try and reach him. Tam~~ you and I have talked about this before.  I know there are good guys out there, too bad we found the bad ones first right?  I love my daughter, hence the reason I incested in an attorney to handle things for me.  Now if he tries to contact me I just call the attorney and he deals with him.  its nice to have that weight off my shoulder.  Now to just get through all of this....

Hang in there and you WILL find the right one for you.  I did and we just celebrated 10 years together last month.  It has not been all roses, but I wouldn't trade him for anything!

Jennifer - so very sorry for what you are going through.  Just remember we are ALL here to support YOU! you did right to post, major (((hugs)))) to you.  lys

It never ceases to amaze me the things people will do.  I am sorry you are having to go through this.  Know that there are WONDERFUL men out there, and your time will come!  In the meantime, stand up for what you know is right, especially as it relates to your daughter, and know that we are here to support you. 

Jennifer dont worry about me you take care of your situation your child and you come first.  Second all He is just doing it casue the girl hes with knows if they try and get your kid they can get more out of it.  ITs been how long since he seen her.  Let him try and throw that in your face.  You have a right to a life and its non of his business what you are doing with your life and as long as your child is being taken care of and is safe there is nothing child protection can do.  Hes just mad casue the courts are going to make him pay child support.  Dont sweat it hun.  He is going to have to first prove it and second hes going to have to show hes been supporting the child.  If you are still leagally married and hes getting money from the military that is breaking the law and reportable.  If he is claiming your child on his page two he can get in trouble for that as well espically if your child is not getting medical through the military.  Call me if you need to talk I am here.  Even to vent

I wish he was military...that would make things so much easier!! I'll definetly call if I need to!! Next week for sure we'll make it!