OMG!! I hope I did not f'up

A freind of mine invited me at last minute to Outback.  She nominated for an award and got it!  She wanted to celebrate!  So I said yes, not having time to look at their menu before I got there.  I did not feel like having shrimp so I ordered the apptizer crab cakes.  It is the Pan-Seared Lump Crab Cakes:

Two delectable cakes loaded with pacific Rim lump crabmeat. Topped with Fresh Tomoato and basil, served with homemade remoulade sauce.

I said no to the tomoata and basil and the sauce.  Just bring me the cakes.  I only ate half of one cake.  When I got home I looked up. I can not find any nutritonal value for it.  I found on some sites for the lobster.crab cakes.  It said for two 800+ caloried and 70+fats!!  OMG!  I hope it is not true.  And I hope it is the sauce.  When I put crab cake in sparkpeople it says 1 cake at 160 calories and 10g fat. So i actually had half of that.  Oh I am feel like crap.  ETA: (psychological crap not physical crap. sorry)

Relax....one meal won't ruin your progress. The fats may be a bit high, and at your stage it may not set well (reasons why you may not feel well), but as for the calories, you're fine...just don't make it a habit.

Deep breath...you're ok.

First of all, you're not going to do that much harm by making ONE bad food choice. From what I can tell, the lobster/crab cakes are exactly what you got, so you'd want to divide that 840+ calories by 4, since you only ate one half of one cake. That's about 210... which is not all that great for that size.

This dish also appears to be HIGH in carbs, but I'm thinking most of those come from the sauce.

It sounds like you might be dumping from the grease/fat that they were fried in. Grease/fat dumping is different, at least for me, than sugar dumping. Grease makes me feel like crap (and later necessitates multiple trips to the bathroom ), like you described, but sugar either makes me sick  or knocks me out.

Don't beat yourself up over it. Everyone, including us WLS people, makes bad food choices every so often. (ask my boyfriend about chocolate and/or ice cream ) Just take it easy and try to avoid it in the future.

Good luck!

Julie

Sweetie this is what Im gonna say to you and if anyone here wants to say they are I challenge them! Nobody is perfect!!! We all have made mistakes and some bad choices and I know I will Im sure just be careful in the future since your so early in the game. Best of luck.... 

I made and ate crab cakes at home when I was at your stage.  I did it for the variety because to make them taste good did require more fat and carbs than I was interested in having on a regular basis.  But as someone else said, one meal is not going to ruin it for you.  My first restaurant meal out was a real disaster in food choices.  You learn and go on.  You'll be experimenting for quite a while.  I still am.  Today's lunch salad topped with grilled chicken sounded great, but the chicken had some strange spice on it that did quite sit right. When I got back to work I had a protein shake to make up for the missed lunch.

Glad it was "just" psycho crap - but don't beat yourself up! You'll do better next time!

Good am Melissa,

Don't beat yourself up for this. The best part is you are seeing what good choices are and the ones that are not so wonderful. For the amount you ate and what you ate it could be worse keep that in mind. You could have ordered it as is and then you've have gotten real sick and see? That's worse! So, moving forward if you can plan ahead a bit. Order on the safe side and enjoy yourself without the worry of whether or not its the best thing. For myself personally I do go out to eat rarely and when I do I usually try to make the good choices but sometimes it doesn't always work out.

Hugs.....

You are fine and your reaction is perfectly normal. 

As part of living life, we are sometimes put into situations where we either (A) make what we think is the best choice and later find out that it's not, or (B) Have no ability to make the right choice.

Obviously, you chose (A) which is acceptable.  Just do not beat yourself up over it.  You are human and now you know that maybe that wasn't the right choice - or maybe it was.

Rememebr....that guilty is partly what got you where you were and is in my opinion a valid reason as to why diets don't work.  We tend to think of things as "being bad" and when we were "bad" we sink further into our emotions which makes matters worse.

You were not "bad", nor was the choice that "bad".  You didn't eat the sauce which is usually where most fat is.  And 1/2 is not going to kill you.

So....don't worry......

I agree with the others, one meal isn't going to really hurt you.  Most of the bad stuff is in the sauce so since you did not get the sauce you should be okay.  As for fat, we do need some fat in our diets so I think you are okay.  Since you didn't dump, you did get something your body could handle.  Eating out & chosing right is one of the hardest parts of this but you will get the hang of it.

You did the best you could. I'm sure there were worse choices on the menu!
We live and learn and move on in this journey.

Ditto to what everyone else has said.  Live and learn.  One time isn't really going to hurt you!

Tam