OT child support

What they should do is lock him up with a cash bond equal to the amount of money he owes you.  If he wants out of jail, he needs to post that bond (that goes to you).  Someone will post the bond for him...he would probably whine and complain every day until mommy or girlfriend bonded him out!

Thats (almost)  exactly what happens.....When my ex went to jail, he was required to get a job while there (work release) then he was required to pay me 100% of what he made till he reduced what he owed to something managable......at that point he was released and told if he came back it would be worse......of course he went one more time till he finally got the hint and retained a good job (His child support bill is at $0.00 as of Thursday....first time in 10+ years!! )

I would not rely on court orders......DCSE is a ***** most days to deal with, but they are the lesser of two evils.....



Cappy

Thanks Cappy! The more people I have to talk to about all of this the better.  I'm so confused by the whole process.  I've just started, so we still have to have our meetings and everything, so ugh

I wish they would do something, but so far, no luck!  He would be worth more dead than alive...at least then she would get a SS check and help to pay for college!  I just wish all men would take their responsibilities the way they should.  My husband pays his child support every week, no excuses.  I guess that's why I'm with him and not my ex....right????

so who wants to hear something even funnier now.....I am on good terms with his parents and gave them a heads up that this was coming.....this morning I log into the bank to check my daughters account and the fool put money in there. Does he really think that fixes anything?  I'm sure he thinks it will. But it'd already been six weeks, I don't think giving me 50 dollars is going to help.  Bonehead.  Why did I ever think he was worth giving my family up for?  Young and dumb I guess! Here's to the future!

I would not tell his family anything. He needs to geta  slap in the face from the state. He needs this to be on record. Your children can sue his estate when he is dead and gone for any back child support owed. I'm sure it does not matter how old they are or how old the court order is. I'd check into that and keep the order current. Most of the time they don't have anything to take, but if it's a nickle that is mine and not some other kids then I want it!

Just know you are doing the right thing for your child. Support needs to be had. The purpose of child support is to maintain that child in at the least the same lifestyle that the person who gives support leads.
My ex and I had a great time (sarcasm there) for 3 years of scarce payments and bounced checks... he didn't think I would take him to court, little did he know.
For me it has been easier. It is court ordered, and they handle everything. I don't have to do much. He is also in the military so making him pay since it was ordered has not been a problem so far in 8 years... he is still in arrears... the judge ordered back child support for the kids which he hasn't paid. But I do get something every month, which is better that what it used to be.

Advise while going through all of this - document everything. Phone calls, payments, etc... keep a log. It is important to document everything you do.

What ever you do, never disparge the other parent. Something I have found now that my kids are teenagers, they remember EVERYTHING!  I took great care in not to EVER say anything negative about my ex in their presence. EVER. And no one else was allowed to either. I let them draw their own conclusions on the kind of person he is, and am so glad I did. I learned this from a personal experience ....  I know it is hard, but try as much as you can. Even if he speaks negatively about you in the presence of the child, do not go the same route.

Good luck with this!