Am I overreating?

Blair, You are HILARIOUS!!!!

Thank you very much to everyone *****plied and dealth with my pain medicine induce spelling and writing.  I really appreciate it and knowing that I am not crazy and what I am feeling is normal.  It really hurts that my mom reacted like this.  She has always been the all mighty and always in the right.  I have allowed her to do so in my life for so long.  I have finally stood my ground with her in the recent months, she acts like I don't appreciate her and respect her.  My biggest problem with her I have is the "I do for you and you are in debt to me for what ever I ant from you and you need to bow down and kiss my feet for helping you.  if you don't then you are ungrateful and take advantage of me."  That is how she was on the phone message she left for me.  It is so frustrating.  My mother has done so much for me.  But I have done so much for her, on a drop of the dime.  especially in her dark days. I have never expected nothing from her in return or any validation.  I don't need it.  I did it because I LOVE her and will keep doing it.   I guess what I want more then anything is for my mom to be my mommy.  I need her to understand and mommy me.  If that makes since.  It just hurts that she can not do that and she has my children pay and hurt them because of her selfishness.  THERE, I am done.  Off my soapbox.  It is OUT.

Alright glad that is out. I am so sorry that your mom acted like she did and it is sorrow that she missed the final performance/ You need to take care of you #1 and then others. You just had major surgery and she needed to be there for you not herself. I can side with you because I went throught that and it is no fun. I a so proud of you for standing up for yourself. She might be going througth the change but it does not have to be the end it can be the beginning of a new and beautiful life. Your mom sounds like my mom was. There are some that feel that you owe them something for raising you and that should not be the way. Starting today it is out with the old  and in with the new and you are starting a new life of being healthy. Keep on posting it is the best stress reliever that I know of.

Thank you Pat for you kind words.  I agree, i am #1 and I think people are having a problem with me taking that role.  I am still the same person.  I will drop everything to be there for family and friends, but if I can't then I can't.  i look out more for me then I have in the past. 

I wouldn't necessarily say over-reacting as I would say hormone/anesthia induced emotions.  Just keep on pushing through.  You will get there, just make sure to take care of you.

Honestly, I would have had the same reaction.  My mother would have pissed me off doing that **** to me so soon out of surgery.  period. With that said...  get beyond it and try to keep your stress levels lower.  If that means asking for hel*****t seeing mom, then so be it. HUGS!!