Regain

I will be 2 years out in Jan.  i still have 30 - 40 lbs to go and am struggling.  i have wxperienced yo to a ten pound regain at one point  I would love to be part of this group. 

I am going to conference for 1st time in Nov  hoping this will help

Patricia, a lot of us will be at the conference too.  I have a vendor booth selling jewelry at the conf so please come by and introduce yourself.  I look just like my pic. Karla and Paige will be there helping me too so you can meet all 3 of us.  Keep checking back for info on the new group.

I agree. You had a great idea with this post!  Thanks.

I know exactly why I'm carrying an extra 15 lbs. I learned to maintain and continue to lose when I was traveling 37 weeks of the year, eating on expense account and entertaining clients all the time. Back then, my days started around 7am, I walked to every meeting and they ended around midnight or sometimes later. It's amazing how much one can eat and drink when you're burning every calorie that you consume plus many, many more.

The last year and a half has been tough. I lost a job that not only defined me, but also made me infinitely happy. I moved. I had financial strains through all of it. I took a position that was supposed to be like my old job. They lied. So for the last year, I've been on the Tollway 2 hours a day, and required to be in the office 8 hours a day. No more getting my exercise in while making my way to meetings.

I'm looking forward to my new job and home officing. I immediately have 2 extra hours every day. I'm considering doing another boot camp before the holidays. I'm drinking less now than I probably ever have since my surgery and I'm pretty much only drinking red wine (less than a bottle a week) vs. the massive amounts of vodka I used to consume. I've never felt like my drinking was a crutch or a cross addiction, it's just what people in the ad business do - watch Mad Men if you don't believe me - and those are my clients. ;) I'm still not at the weight I'm most comfortable at, but I'm back in my size 4 Luckys. I'll keep working until I get there.

We don't always get to choose our path. Sometimes we do the best we can adapting to it. Try not to be so tough on people for letting one area of their lives go when they're trying to keep the rest of it pulled together.

I'd join in on a private group. Like everyone else, I stopped coming here because the drama was too annoying and it's not really an iPhone friendly site. If it were on FB, the only way I would join is if it's a private group as well.

Steph, great post.  I am over 2 years out and I am so worried about gaining.  I am in my bounce zone now, but the holidays are coming and being tempted and making the wrong choices are easier to say yes to.  I am afraid I will slip and not work my way back.

I would love to join the group.  I have lurked once in a while, but have not posted.  Whose fault is that it is all mine.  I need the feel of friends around me and people that understand what it is like.

I will support which ever way you go private or open.  I just want to be a part of the group.  I can't continue to do it alone.

Hmmmmmm, I have not been on here since January of this year. I think it is ironic that the first post I read is tittled REGAIN..
Steph get out of my bathroom, stop reading my scale and get out of my mind. LOL
I have a ton to say. But, it is pretty much what everyone else has said. So, I will skip it. One of the reassons I stopped coming here is that I really didn't feel that I was a good example for many and thought it best to not let them see my bad habits or be a bad influence on them. The farther out you get, the harder it gets. Period. 
 I am almost 7 yrs out. So, for those of us that are that far out, we have totally different issues than the people that are no where near that far.
I do wish them the best though. My heart breaks for those that say to us veterans "Why would you have that surgery when you didn't plan on changing your habits forever, or "I can't believe she has gained all that weight back" or "She just isn't trying". Those comments are so unfair and that old saying "never judge someone until you have walked in their shoes" really comes into play here. My heartbreaks for them because they will be here someday also. We just want them to listen to us now so they will not have as hard a time as those of us that were not told that. Hugs

Kathy, I agree with you 100%.  I "thought" I'd learned what I needed the first 2 years to not struggle, little did I KNOW how hard it would be the further out one becomes.

I'm right there with you Bender! I am 5 years out and rarely come here any more...just too much drama and holier than thou attitudes for my taste!

My lowest post-RNY weight was 153, size 8. Honestly, I wasn't happy there and apparently neither was my body. I intended on gaining some weight back, but maybe only about 7 pounds. Well, the 7 turned into 25 real fast. Bill and I are both very aware of our regain and are working on it through diet and up until last week when he broke his ankle, we were actually out walking in the evenings. As of last Thursday at the doc, I weigh 170.2, which is down from the nearly 180 I was, but still 10 above my "goal". At least Bill is getting exercize on those dang crutches! LOL

Those "I can't believe the regain" comments really bother me too. And those that have luckily never suffered with a cross addiction, just don't understand. I could rationalize all day, but I have always been open and up front about the problem I continue to suffer with. I can say I have improved with the amount as well as the frequency that I drink, but it's still there and still remains a problem. Wi**** was easy as throwing it in the trash and forgetting about it...it's just not that simple!! The same walk a mile in my shoes saying applies here!

So I am definitely in on the group if invited! Yall have loved and supported me for a very long time. I so miss my little Terrell Troopers group that Mel and I started! I can't find any type of support since moving here. Nobody wants "someone else's liability". Hell I don't either, and I'm not asking them to treat me, just let me attend some kind of support function!

Thanks for letting me rant yall!

Hugz,
Gina L

Great post! Great idea! I'm over 2 years out and bounce around with the same 3-4lbs gain/loss every week. I'm about 8 lbs from my initial goal and about 15lbs from where I'd really like to be. I would only do a private group either here or on FB. I love Paige's Mainstayer private page on FB because everyone does not know I had WLS on FB and I'd like to keep it that way. I'm definitely interested though.

Deb

Interested?!?  Are you kidding me?!?! Ken, will tell you I started crying when I read this because I am so terrified after ALL I have been through my weight will come back!! This last bought has been really rough and to compoud my fear I have to eat so much to keep my weight on that I fear one monday Ill wake up huge again!!

I know my problems are different and no one can really relate, or very few, to what I have been through but you have put my feelings onto paper so eloquently!! Your also right about many of the people who were our role models. I have lived in fear of saying the things you have said in this and your later post for fear of hurting peoples feelings or being shunned from the group!

You have all done so much to support and help me but I have started to feeling a little lost and on my own. I have tried to stay positive for fear of scaring others from the surgery. I would do it again but with all my problems the future scare sme horribly. If any thing else happens to me I am screwed.

I am now a high risk surgical risk, no one will touch me if something else happens except Dr D who promised to always be there for me!! My last hope for help will be the Cleveland Clinic if I can even get in!

I did this to be healthy and normal and although the Docs smile and same I am "special" or "exotic" I feel likea freak. I hurt all the time...leg cramps due to loss of muscle mass and being on my feet all day, I never know what will make me sick or how sick I will get and I am really tired odf the hospitals. Please invite me into the group Although I act tough and always positive many days I feel like giving up and I need you guys more than ever. I am afraid I am developing problems with the pain meds and try not take them but Tylenol doesnt touch.

OMG I cannot believe I have finally  purged all of this. Thank you Steph for giving me the courage to admit to all of this. It has been festering since January. Love you all and thanks for understanding, yall and Ken are the only ones who could understand. Thank God I have Ken who will always be by my side!

Meggie