Just a down day

Oh wow, well I woke up to a phone call this morning from my parents neighbors (most of my friend on here know my parents do not support me in my SWL) Anyhow Apparently my Dad suffered a stroke and of coarse I tried to call the one sister that lives with them and all I get was the sound of the phone slamming down in my ear............ I should be mad but I am just hurt.... I just want to know how he is but I have been shunned because of my family's Religious beliefs... So frustrated and I called another one of my sisters that is also been shunned and told her what was going on and she drove 4 hours to where they live and they called the cops on her "what the heck!" all we want to know is how he is...... the neighbors told me that all they know is he stroked out on the front lawn and they called the EMS but my Mom refused to let him go to the hosp..... I don't get it I really just don't get this.. I grew up with all this but left at 15 yrs to have a normal life.
I am just worried, feeling lonely and hurt..... These to me are my triggers to eat and I am trying so hard to stay away from the kitchen... this is not easy I live alone (hubby is over seas working) I do not have anyone here but myself and right now it would be so easy for me to just go eat... I hate that feeling so I am fighting it but slowly losing the battle.
I know I can not change them and I know I need to let it go and move forward But that little kid in me just wants her mom and dad. It is time to relize that its not going to happen and I have to get my big girl panties on and keep going .
Thanks for letting me vent everyone.

Well honey, of course you are hurt and worried! Thay are your parents. No matter how much our family hurts us they are still family and we do love them! When you feel like eating, get up and move---go for a walk, clean out a drawer, reorganise something. Just find something to keep you hands and mind occupied that is not in the kitchen. Go for a walk outside, if it is too hut drive to the mall and walk there (do not stop in the food court and leave your money in the trunk of your car!!!). Keep in touch with your neighbors they obviously understand and care about you and they will keep you informed as to what is going on if you make them feel appreciated(like send them a note of thanks for all their help!). Take a deep breath and hang in there!

Meggie

Contact the police department there, and explain the situation. Tell them you are concerned that your mom is refusing to get him medical treatment. There is usually an agency that deals with elder abuse.

 I am SO sorry that you are going through this.   My heart aches for you as I read your post.   I can't relate to what you are going through but I have heard of others going through something similar to what you are.   Prayers going you way.   Please don't give into the "FOOD DEMON" !!!   When you become totally overwhelmed with it all.....get away from the kitchen.    I always either go to the gym or go walk at the mall when I feel like stuffing my face with food.     You had the surgery to get healthy.....not to give in to stresses that life brings and won't ever go away.     We all have to learn to deal with what life happens to throw our direction...some get more things thrown at us
 more than others.   I happen to be one of those people myself.    Just hang in there.   Come here and vent to us anytime you need to.    We are here for you to support and encourage you on your journey.    Sorry your sister that lives with your parents doesn't understand that you are concerned about your Dad.    That is a shame.    Praying for you and your Dad's health also.    


Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian

Thank you all for your kind words I am going to stay strong and do what is sugested.....We have contacted the elder abuse hotline and they have already looked into it, My sister called them yesterday but their hands are tied due to the fact it is my dads choice not to go to the hosp. Now we could go to court and have them both declared as incompitent BUT that is a long shot. For now I will just pray for them and hope that he is ok... the neighbors said they would keep me informed.
So for now I just need to work on myself and try to over come this urge to go eat my feelings.... "knock on wood" so far so good.
Thanks again for your support.

Hugs, Lisa