Hey everyone

I have been going thru so much heartache since Sunday evening. I talked with Joe Barlette about this. But the affairs of the heart hurt. ON Aug. 9 my evil dnl filed an Order of Protection for her and my grandson, who is only 2. I have never ever hurt her (thought about it) or laid a hand on my grandson. I've never been allowed to have him alone, most of her family is around when I am near him, so we can't get to spend anytime together. He knows her family and I'm the outcast. I found this out on Sunday evening that the court date was Last Friday. She called Sunday evening to tell me this. I hadn't received it because the dim wit sent it to Knox Cty. I don't live in Knoxvillle. It was sent back and reissued on Aug. 16. The court date is 9/9 in Gallatin, TN Sumner Cty. I don't even know why she filed it. Tuesday between 6pm and 6:48, she called 7 times, to make amends and asked if I wanted to come over this weekend for see my grandson. Now why would I want to do that after she had just told me that she had filed the paper? The new court date has been scheduled for next week. Does she think I am a fool? Momma may have raised a couple of blonds, but we aren't fools. Out of 5 kids, she and I are the only two with college educations and both graduated with top honors. The phone company has given me the security code that if she calls, I am to put in the code for harassement. The sheriff in Rutledge, Grainger County has had the paperwork for over two weeks and it's never been served. I live 4 hours away from them. There is no way even if the judge doesn't allow this to be processed and carried out, will I ever go on their property again. My son knows this, and that I never want to be around the evil witch again. If in town, he and Waylon can meet me, but not with her. I came close to having my shrink lock me up for my protection against knives and for my sanity. The ole evil one knows which button to push to keep me in her control and that's using Waylon as a pawn. I have been advised to have no more contact with them, don't talk to them, or to email them or accept any email. My son was enraged when he called me Sunday evening only to find out what his wife was up too. He is having it revolked. But the damage has been done. I don't need a stroke, heart attack, or a break down. I am sorry to dump this on you, but I just needed to unload this termoil and heart ache. I love my grandson and my son so much, but because of the evil witch, I can't have any contact with them either. With the holidays coming up, I will buy him and Waylon savings bonds to be held for them. I just wish that there was peace with my sons family. They need so much prayer for them. She professes to be a Christian and prays daily for their home, food, and her family, but then does this against me, for no reason that I know of. But no more. She has made it impossible for me to even trust her. My son wants to see me, he can meet me at his brothers apartment with Waylon only, she can not be near me, I trust her about as much as my baby finger nail, there's no telling what she would do next to keep me out of Waylon's life or my son's. Pray that my son gets her some professional help. She diffently needs it. She says I will grow old, alone, bitter, and full of haterd, I will be 51 this month, and I don't feel old, I'm not alone, nor bitter and full of haterd, if anything I feel numb, and pity for her. I don't know what else to do about this situation, I feel I have done more then I needed to do for my protection and my sanity. Monday and Tuesday I could have easily sliced my wrists, so my son would have some peace in his life, but as long as she's with him, he will never know peace. That's a shame. He deserves some happiness, but since they got together, his life has been nothing but fighting. He stays because of his son, otherwise, he wouldn't be able to see him. She would make sure of it. She's that unbalanced. Thank you just listening, that means more to me then you will ever know. I love y'all, Kathy

Hi Kathy, I really feel for you and what you are going through with your dil.I just don't know what elsa to say,from what you say it sounds like she needs some kind of help.I am sorry that you can not see your son and grandson b/c of all this.Maybe someday with Gods help you have peace in your life and not this worry.May God bless you and your family. Eva

Thanks Eva. Mom called to see if I had heard anything from the court on whether it has been revolked. The papers are sitting in the sheriff's office in Grainger Cty. Since I have never had even a speeding ticket, I don't have any type of criminal past. Knock on wood. (still want to put sugar in her gas tank) That unless they have been called out on several occasions for domistic violance, changes are they won't even serve it. But in the mean time, I live in a fear like trance, that they will show uup and serve me, then the whole valley will wonder why the sheriff is in my party of the valley. A lot of folks don't even know I live here, but they have scanners to listen to when the police are in the valley coming up the mountain. They hide real fast. But just as nosy as most mountain folks. I just taking it one day at a time. I can't put a block on my phone to not accept their phone calls because it's long distance. So I have to push the star key and 57 to record and alert that she is harassing me. she'll learn not to mess with Mother Nature again. But I do wish she would get some professional help, before it's too late. Kathy

My son new about it, but hadn't realized that she had filed. Because I screamed at her over the phone, the police told her to get the Order of Protection. Well two days after telling me that she filed this, she calls to invite me over for the weekend. Like I'm stupid. She has dropped the charge, but the damage is done. I told my son, I would never step foot in Portland, TN again as long as I live. So I guess I will never see my grandson or son again. If that is what it takes for peace in my life, then so be it. I have no haterd for her, just numb inside. He doesn't realize, that because of her filing that paperwork, that she will be treat with as a guest in the families home, but she will be asked to leave, if I show up. They think they are still going to his grandparents for Thanksgiving, what they don't know and what will not be told to them, is his grandparents are leaving for 3 months to Texas. The parents no longer trust her, so they don't want my son to know they won't be home. Can't blame them. They wanted to come here for this weekend since I won't go to them, told them we weren't going to be home for the weekend. Darm what can I say. Didn't want a good weekend to be ruined. Just planning a cookout and fishing. After we get my room totally cleaned, personally I think something is growing in here because of all the dust. While Robert does that part I will be sitting outside. I'm allergic to dust. As long as I don't disturb it, it won't disturb me. So when he vacumms and dusts, I leave. Well, enough said, about that sorry excuse for a dnl and family.