Reply to: It sure does take courage...

Hi all Thanks so much for all the support from my last post. I really appreciate it. What a day I've had...do you ever wonder how much more you can handle? My soon to be ex-hubby just left a little while ago. We both sat in my kitchen and cried. I won't bore you with the details, but I really try hard to be strong...but sometimes it just doesn't work. It's hard not to get emotional as I type this. I really hope that I have this surgery and that I'm successful. I dream of having better health and a better quality of life. All you losers are such an inspiration to me. Thank you.

Awwww Melissa. I know that your life will improve after this surgery. It's kinda funny, since my husband found out that I'm having the surgery and since I showed him so many of the before and after pictures he's becoming a whole different person towards me. Believe me it's a good thing.....before I was here to pay bills and clean house. He's now more attentive. I think before he was comfortable knowing that not many people found me attractive, and now I think he's kinda nervous about the months to come. I kinda like it...LOL

Anne, I think he needs to feel a little uncomfortable knowing that your physical appearance is going to be more what society considers "acceptable" once you have this surgery. I'm glad he's realizing that you are his wife and not just someone to take care of him! You go girl!!! I wish you the best of luck and hope that your hubby continues to be more attentive to you. Missi

Sorry your having a hard time God doesn't give us more than we can handle, and everything he gives us makes us stronger. I hope you get to have WLS. I'm afraid your ex will want to come back after he see's what a difference WLS will make for you. You stay strong and do whats best for you. You deserve a little fun. I'm still praying for ya. Barb

Hey Barb Thanks for your words of encouragement. Overall, I think I've done pretty good with the situation, but I do have my moments. Please keep me in your prayers. I have to give my ex SOME (not much) credit. He never had an issue with my weight. I am the one that has always had the issue with my weight. But WLS or not, he knows that there is no chance of us getting back together. That bridge, to me, is burned. I just pray for the strength to do what's right and to allow myself to be the person I am inside. WLS would sure help me with that!

Hi Melissa. I'm sure sorry you're having to deal with such a difficult situation as divorce. I've been there, and it was my decision, so i'm sure it was harder on my ex husband than it was for me. I was abused in many forms so it only improved my life. We have children together so i'm still forced to deal with him on a regular basis. I pray that things happen quickly for you and the surgery. I'll keep you in my prayers, God is awesome! Love and prayers, Melanie

Hi Melanie I'm glad that your life improved when you were divorced. I believe mine will too...it's just those "moments" when I feel really blue. (get it, "blue" teehee) Anywho...I am looking forward to the divorce being final so that I don't have to deal with him anymore. He was at my house last night and we both ended up sitting here crying. (He started it, not me) I understand about being abused. Physical is not the ONLY abuse that effects us. Thanks for keeping me in your prayers. I hope for a successful surgery too. I know I have been blessed in many ways and I'm thankful for those. Missi