How did you over come your negative self image?

Hello all,

I am close to my goal 25 lbs to go 76 gone. But I still see all my "fatness". I hear people I work with or my husband tell me daily how skinny I am now or how I can't stand to lose anymore I will be to skinny, but when I hear it I think oh gosh my stomach is flabby, my arms, my upper thighs. And dont get me wrong I have been bless with elastic skin it does not sag as much as some to where I would need a tummy tuck, but I see myself naked and pick out all my flaws. I can see I have lost weight and when I look at my before pictures think "Oh my!" Because I never saw myself as big as I was. But I was wondering when if ever does the normal body image kick in? My BMI is still "overweight" so when it's normal will it? When I reach my goal? Will I ever not feel like the fatest person in the room?

Thanks for any and all input.

Sher

Honestly, I still struggle with this at over a year our and well below goal. At 170 lbs, I'm very skinny for a 6' tall guy. And like you, I still see the areas that sag and stick out, but with clothes on, it all looks great and I get the, "You're so skinny" comments. I am starting to see myself like others. I ask my wife alot, am I as skinny as that guy. And I'm finding out, slowly, but finding out that I am not that fat guy anymore. We lose weight so quick, our heads just don't catch up. I think my head is now catching up, but it still has a ways to go. I think for me, it has alot to do with being a perfectionist, which I'm working on, but if it isn't perfect, it seems messed u*****t right to me and I get frustrated. Thus the image of how my body looks. Like I said I'm coming to grips with it and I didn't have this surgery to look like some muscle rip guy or some hunk, I had it to feel better, which I do.

I know it's not easy, but give it time and don't be so hard on yourself.  I know, like the rest of us, you have to look great with weight you've lost. We'll never look as bad as that fat person we were.

 It will get better, it just takes time.

Honestly Telish....I saw you at Christmas, you look beautiful. I am so thrilled for you and I know how you feel, but I have trully excepted myself fat or skinny. Would I rather be skinny than fat? Skinny, but I have trully figured out that I'm great no matter what. You are great and you have to keep telling yourself that, and you will believe it. I felt like my fat was a place to hide, so I didn't have to feel rejection. I'm still single and I love feeling comfortable in my skin. Do you?  Luv

Sher, have you attended any of the support groups with Dr. Ihrig or Dr. Livengood? These are exactly the types of issues they discuss. Dr. Ihrig's group is every Tuesday and every Thursday at noon, Dr. Livengood's group meets the 2nd, 3rd and 4th Monday of each month at 6PM, all meetings are in our classroom.