Frustrated....
Like Scott says BREATH!!
You had surgery for a reason. We are all different and lose weight differently, etc. As long as you follow your surgen's info about what you need to do to lose weight, YOU WILL LOSE WEIGHT!!
You are at the 3 week mark and most likely at the 3 week plateau. Remember your body has gone through a HUGE change and is trying to adjust. If you "work" your tool it WILL adjust and you will get to losing weight.
Please do NOT compare yourself to any one else. We are all different, in the same way that as people we are different.
Please contact your Surgen's office/Center and talk with the NUT. They should be able to get you all the info that you need to make sure that you are getting what your body needs.
Also, I would recommend that maybe you can seek out a Therapist. Alot of people need at least a few visits because of the HUGE changes that we go through.
Another suggestion is to attend a support group. If you go to one that you do not like, seek another one.
Don't give up, just take it one day at a time.
Good luck!
Michael.
Tell me more about this 3 week plateau........ I am in my 6th week and I definantly see myself plateauing. As my nut. tells me there are people who will lose very quickly and people who will plateau a bit, lose and plateau again. I have been guessing that I am in the second boat. Did you have any major periods of not losing any weight? How did you get over them? I play a very aggressive sport 3 times a week and am rebuilding muscle that was lost during my time off..... Do you think that this could attribute to the scale not moving? Any insight would be awesome! Thanks,
Sherrie,
I know how you feel. I am trying to find things to occupy my time so that I do not think about the surgery, my weight loss, vitamins, nutrition, etc. throughout the day. I have vowed to only step on the scale once a month (looking at my weight everyday drives me nuts). I'm trying to push myself physically beyond what I know I was capable of before, and in general am looking for differences my pre-op capabilities. For the first few weeks (because I was home all day) I found myself thinking about this stuff waaay too much. I knew I had to break myself of that and get back to normal life. Once life started to look a little more normal, I started appreciated the changes more. I know without the surgery I would not of been able to lose the weight that I have lost in 6 weeks. I hope this helps and I wish all the best to you!
Thanks,
Joey marie.
One thing that you will prob want to do if you are very active, is to get in a few more calories. Your body sort of freaks out and goes into a starvation mode if it is not getting in enough food or "fuel" especially if you exercise a lot.
I found that when I would get stuck I would change my routine. I would workout on different days of the week, do different things and also change the way that I eat. I know that it sounds strange but a few more calories will make all the difference in the world. Now I don't mean do what Michael Phelps does and eat 12000 calories a day, but just as little as 100-120 more calories should be enough, it was for me.
Also make sure that you are giving yourself at least 1 day of rest, maybe two from exercise per week to allow your body to recover.
I am at goal so what I do now is I work out in the afternoon at the gym at my work. I usually eat lunch at 1pm and go to the gym at about 530pm, so I usually have two snacks between lunch and the gym because I know that I may not eat dinner till about 730pm. I may have a yogurt or something else light, then about 30-45 minutes I eat a protein bar (Pure Protein is the brand). That way it gives me the energy that I need till dinner. If I do not eat anything, I find that my blood sugar is low and I get shaky.
Please remember that protein bars should not be used untill you are, I would say at least 6 months out from surgery. Also the brand that I use has good stats for what it is, and they are not huge (19-20g of protein, and 15-17g carbs). Some offices and patients don't like to recommend protein bars, but this is the only one that I choose. Keep in mind that if you choose to eat a protein bar, it will slow down your weight loss, but I'm at goal.
BTW - I'm still loosing weight, but at a very healthy rate of about 2-3 lbs a week, I know that it will stop, but since I'm where I need to be for how tall I am.
I hope that this helps.
Also make sure that you talk with your Surgen and staff for the best things for YOU!
Michael.
BREATHE!!!! And that's not because I'm a CPR Instructor!
Sherrie, the biggest thing to do is truly ...breathe! Take a deep breath, and do something productive. Girl, you are only 3 weeks out from a life changing decision! At 20 months out, I still ask myself those same questions. But instead of focusing on what have I done? I focus on what I'm able to do!
We just spent the last 5 days in Texas. did you know that it's 101 degrees in the shade? Guess what? I spent it in the sun walking around. Now that is something I would not have Even tried 20 months ago!
I know you are appreciative for the gift that has been given. I know that you will wake up one morning and feel 100% better than you d right now. I just know this will happen!
So instead of focusing on what have I done! Focus on what you're gonna do! Write those goals down and place them on the fridge!
Someone once told me goals not written down are simply dreams! Now, BREATHE!!!!!
Also normal is "buyer's remorse", or the "Oh my dear Lord, what have I done to myself?" Food is a very important part in our lives, and to lay down on the table one morning going to sleep as normal and waking up a few hours later having to change your entire view about food is quite a shock. No one can explain that feeling to another person, its something that one has to experience in order to understand.
Hang in there. The first 2 to 3 months are difficult but as the days and weeks go by, it gets easier.
I can relate, I am having my surgery on Monday. I have those moments of "WHAT ARE YOU DOING?" I have been trying to have this done for almost 3 years and now I am having doubts?! I just keep thinking of long term and how my life will change for the better and all the things I miss doing , I will be able to do again. Keep your eye on the prize, it will get better. There are meetings on the 2nd Wednesday of every month in Cookeville Hospital. They have helped me so much and the people who go there are wonderful! They can help you with your questions, they have all been where you are at. They have really helped me. This months meeting is the 12th. I won't be there , I will hopefully be coming home from my surgery, but you try to go and see if it doesn't make you feel better. Stay strong~ shell
I had my surgery a year ago and with all the stuff that I had issues with (things that you are dealing with now), I would do it again IN A HEARTBEAT!!
There is a quote "Nothing tastes as good as thin feels". Keep telling yourself that and you will get through the tough times.
For those that say we take the easy way out... have not walked in our shoes!!
Michael.
Buyers Remorse... Hey I'm almost 3 yrs out and there was a time around one year postop... I had my gallbladder out and could hardly eat anything without dumping like symptoms... I had a dumping like situation after eating only chicken breast, nothing else, no sauces or anything on it... I blamed the wls but it had nothing to do with wls. It was gallbladder related... but it all came back to WLS in my opinion at the time... I kept thinking, "My gosh what did I do to myself?" I was thin. I had lost all my weight. And all I could think of was, "Now I have to live like this the rest of my life?" I was feeling sorry for myself and took it out on the surgery... that finally resolved. So sometimes, even after losing all the weight, and being "successful", a person can still have buyers remorse!
Also... sherry you talk about sadness. Let me just talk aloud for a minute... you have a best friend who has been there for you many years... through happy times, sad times, eventful times, uneventful boring times... any time you needed comfort, or peace... times of loneliness... and even in the highest of highs when you were so excited and needed someone to celebrate with you... that friend was always there... faithful to the end... but one day you woke up and you needed your friend... only, you realize that she's not in your life anymore... you told her that you didn't want a relationship with her and that you could do this alone... only to find, perhaps you were wrong? That is exactly what has happened to you and your friend: FOOD. You said, "Food, we've been through a lot together... but it's time to separate." (quoting someone's signature line from the board... I forgot who!)... but as soon as you severed the relationship by having gastric bypass... man alive! You realized how much you were dependent on food to make you happy!
No wonder you're sad! But hang in there... because, right now you would really like to have your dear old friend there for you... all along, however, your friend was stabbing you in the back... hurting you, damaging your body... and you did not ever realize it until it was too late... you'll find new friends, new things to take its place... new things to comfort you, new things to celebrate with... Hang in there... because very soon you will have gotten over your sad goodbye.
