Angry,Mad, and Upset

Everyone I have really been upset all during today. I'm just now having the courage to type this as it is too embarassing. Today I went to a new gyno dr . Again I am embarassed by posting this but I will write it as clean as possible. Basically after the doctor was finished he made a stupid comment. The comment was and I quote " I thought that I would have a lot of problems during your exam".    I stated why?    Then this quack said because  you are very obese.Here I am sitting in the office with my jaw dropped for a minute.Then I stated.   WHY was it necessary for you to mention that in such a statement ??????   If you were able to complete the exam with no problems then why be ignorant and mention this after the fact????  You are done with my exam now!!!  There was no need to say this to me. I do not mind if a doctor mentions to me that they are concerned about me being obese and wanting to know what I am going to do about it. But to make a statement like  this was uncalled for unless you were willing to discuss my obesity like a concerned dr and not like you thought that completing my exam was going to be a chore and let alone tell the patient what you thought when the exam was already OVER!!!!!!!   My exam went smooth sailing so why mention your idiotic thoughts!!!    I felt like that a professional would have discussed his concerns about my obesity rather than make a statement such as that .If he would have acted  like he was concerned than I would have glady mentioned the WLS to him.. So people just let anything come out of their mouths without thinking.It is a shame. It is hard enough to deal with obesity.It  certainly makes you feel bad when a Dr makes a stupid statement rather than act like they are professional and  concerned about your weight and health.

You have nothing to be embarrassed about.  You are trying to take care of yourself by getting an exam and working towards improved health by going after WLS.  I'd have called him more than a quack, but not on this board.  I try to stay clean here, too.  It's not always easy is it? 

OMG... What a hmmmmm..  jerk! (keeping it clean!)  But other words went through my mind!!!  If he is in a private practice, you can write a letter directly to him, if he is not, then I'd write a letter to him and copy it to EVERY other doctor in the office discussing rude and insensitive behavior. 

You are so much nicer than I...  I'd have posted his name, practice location... so no one else would go...  it is kind of like that commercial from years ago...  you tell two people, and they tell two people, and so on and so on, and so on... soon it would get around....  

You did NOT deserve that and I'm so sorry you had to go through it!!!!!!!

HUGS

I am sure that hurt your feelings very much.  I'm sorry that happened.  Sometimes I think doctors forget that their "medicalese" language STILL has an affect on our hearts...  "obese" translates "fat" whether they mean for it to or not.  Once I had a doctor write in my medical records that he could not get a good gyn result due to "obesity and guarding".  That really hurt my feelings tremendously and I did not speak of it for years!! 

I'm sorry that happened. Hugs to you today my friend!

THAT is just plain uncalled for!   I agree with the previous remarks - this Dr. (using the term loosely!) needs to be reported!  I would post his name everywhere I could and say that you do not reccomend this man to anyone - skinny or not!  The internet is a great place to post reviews of doctors.  I am sorry you had to go through this - no one deserves to be treated in htis manner!

Beth

Thank you all.I feel better reading your replies and I will do something about this in writing and spread.spread, spread his name  as much as I can  because I was just in   utter shock yesterday.I am use to a Dr wanting to discuss my obesity but not a doctor that flat out make such an idiotic statement.

I know you must have been hurt,  Sometimes Drs perceive our obesity as just a medical condition.  If they could see past that into our pain and into our hearts I suspect they would be a little more sensitive. 

Sorry you had to go through this.  

On a lighter note:  Once I went to the minor emergency clinic with the flu so bad I could hardly hold my head up.  The first thing they did was ask me to get up .....drag myself to the scale to weigh.  I REFUSED to do it.   I told them that I had the flu.  I needed drugs to combat it and if they couldn't tell by looking at me that I needed the biggest dose of whatever they were going to prescribe, they were in the wrong profession!

I felt so empowered.  I had wanted to refuse the scale for years.   As sick as I was I felt as if it was a victory for every fat person in America.    Needless to say, they did not make me weigh.  Maybe they saw this as being just as ridiculous as I did. 

I suspect the next time I go to the Dr.   I will ask them to weigh me first before I even go into the room.  I will be so proud of myself.    You will too.   Someday you will be able to put all this in the past. 

Beeepppp! Time for a new doctor!!!!!  And although I agree with Amy about writing the letter--be careful--doctors(and staff) tend to gossip to other doctor offices and staff--

I can so relate. A few years ago there was a new doctor in my pcp's practice that I had never seen before. I went in, very pleased with myself because I had my diabetes log book with me and had had completely normal blood sugars for the past 3 months. The doctor came in, turned his back to me to read my chart and then turned around and said, "You know you will never see 60, right? I was stunned. I was in my 30s then. What was even more annoying was that he had at least 100 pounds on me. If I had been thinking clearly and not been so shocked, I might have asked if he expected to see 60. I made up my mind to never see him again.
Karen

That stinks.   He was obviously very unthinking and/or very uncaring.   I'm not sure if I'd spread his name around or anything like that, but I'd make very sure he knew he was fired and why.

Dennie