WTH is going on around here?

Melinda gets banned for reaching out to help someone with serious problems? I don't get it. Some people around here really need to grow up and act their age.

Karen, I got banned from the NNEW which is Trina's group. I also asked to be removed, so is it truly banishment? Or just a removal upon my request? I am not certain

Thanks, Melinda for clarifying. When I saw your post on the other board I thought you were banned from OH. I'm really sorry all this happened. I don't know what gets into people.
Karen

Karen, you are so right.  It amazes me that grown adults just don't understand that sometimes support means "tough love".  If you don't want to hear the truth, maybe you just need to crawl back under the rock from whence you came.  Thanks for posting what you posted - I truly believe that is why a lot of the "oldies" no longer post - because they got tired of all the "candy coated" support that is going on within this forum.  Noone ever said the journey each of decided to embark on was going to be easy and that means sometimes we have to hear things that we may not want to hear - hey, maybe if we had "truly" heard those things before we wouldn't have needed to have WLS in the 1st place.  To be honest - I give up - don't think I'll be posting anymore - I've said it before, but this time, I truly mean it.  Any further responses will be made in the form of a PM.

Thank you, Wendy. I believe when people ask for help they need honesty along with suggestions, not just rainbow sparkles as it has been called on other boards. I also don't advise anyone to do anything I am not willing to do myself to stay on track. I'm thinking that people just don't want honest help, they just want a pat on the back no matter what they are doing. I guess that is a nice gesture but how helpful is it really?
I hope you will keep posting Wendy. When and if I get off track, I would rather have your brand of help to get me back to where I should be. The point of the whole thing being to hear what I need to hear and to do whatever I have to do to be successful with this surgery.
Karen

Karen,
Thanks for your encouragement as well.  I just can't understand why some of these women have never left junior high and want to keep drama constantly going.  They need to realize this is reality, they are grown ups and they just need to "pull up their big girl panties and deal with it".  There is no "easy button" for life.  If there were, none of us would have ever needed to have WLS to begin with.  If they think it's supposed to be easy after the WLS then they made the wrong choice for themselves.  Life is a struggle at best and the more you face reality and deal with it head on instead of burying your head in the sand like an ostrich, the better you are going to get through life.  I saw a button the other day that says, "I'm not mean..., I just say what most people keep in their head."

So, for those of you out there that think I'm mean, so be it.  Go back to your little world where it's all sunshine, roses, and butterflies.  It's ok, they know you there and they will enable you.  I for one believe in empowering people and sometimes, unfortunately, that means stepping on toes.  So get a grip and grow up.  As the old saying goes, "If you can't run with the big dogs, you might want to stay on the porch."  Better yet, in this case, just go back in the house.

I just don't understand a lot of this. I got a really ugly reply to this thread from someone I don't even know who doesn't know me or anything about me. I refuse to go down that childish road so I used my block button. Things sure have changed here. I guess that is why I spend most of my time on other boards. Wendy, you should visit the RNY board. There is a lot of support and helpful information there. I will be attending my surgeon's support group this Friday and so I don't have to just depend on the board for my support. At my surgeon's group, we all have the same postop rules and food plans so things are much simpler. I don't mind the 2 hour drive either. I enjoy it. It is quiet time with my husband and son. I might need to depend on my real life group more than OH.
Karen

With all due respect Karen you need to take your own advise!! You started some sh-- on here before and I could really care less what you may think of me. There is a big diffirence between tough love and some telling others to see a shrink or to get get off their A$$E$!! Not cool in my book and I don't post much because I don't need help from the likes of you and some others. I am at my one year and at my goal and I did it with the help of those who are always having the rears jumped on here and I think it is pathetic. There are always two sides to every story and that needs to be remembered I think!

hey, maybe if we had "truly" heard those things before we wouldn't have needed to have WLS in the 1st place

I think this is something that everyone needs to remember, we are all here for the same reason.  We all had/have the same problems.  I would like to understand that when  some people get to their goal or below that they get this holier than thou attitude!!!!!  We are all human, we all have problems, some more than others.  Some ask for help in different ways, some don't ask.  And there "truly" is a hugh difference between "tough love" and kicking a person when they are down.