Please don't call me FAT!

Wow, I could use some support! Being pregnant and gaining weight after working so hard to lose weight is very hard emotionally. I am very excited about my baby and have accepted the weight gain because I know I have learned so much these past year and a half and I think I am strong enough to lose weight agian after I have the baby. I don't intend to but would gladly gain my 150 pounds back to have a healthy baby. With that said, I am now growing daily. I had no choice but to get into maternity clothes and I love my baby belly. I even noticed a couple of days ago that my belly button is starting to disappear and that actually made me very happy.  Well, some people are unintentionally hurting my feelings by calling me FAT!! The worst thing you could call someone who has gone through WLS (much less anyone). I understand they do not mean to hurt my feelings by describing my belly this way and I don't know if it is hormones or not but I am soo hurt by this comment. It has happened about 4 times lately. Even my mom! She saw my belly (she hasn't seen me much) and said, "Aww look - you are begining to get fat aren't you!" It was basically her way of saying I am showing and she is happy for me but I feel like she could word it a different way. My female boss at work will walk by me and say "Hi Chubby". Well, after the 2nd time, I said, you are going to have to quit calling me that. I don't like it. So she did for a while. Today, she saw me and said "Hey Fatty"! Then she said how are you feeling. I said "I am not talking to you" and walked away. I pretty much went into my office and tried to stop myself from crying. Maybe I am just taking it harder because I have been overweight and I am hormonal but I do NOT LIKE IT! Why can't people figure out another nicer way of noticing a growing baby belly instead of saying fat or chubby. I know they do not mean to hurt my feelings and maybe they don't realize they are and maybe I shouldn't let it get to me so much but it  really is. I can't believe I am crying ove being called fat! Even when I was severely obese I would not have cried over being called fat but I am letting it bother me a lot now.  Thanks for letting me vent!

Big {{ Hug}} Sweetie. You are not fat you are not chubby. You are beautiful and growing a healthy baby inside your body. I went through pregnancy way before WLS but I can imagine how hard it is being called names after working so hard and coming do far. I would keep doing what your doing and just let people know in a nice way that it bothers you. It would bother anyone to be honest. There is a lady here who is pregnant who hates when people call her big mamma. I can't say as I blame her or you for that matter. Just know that you are beautiful sweetie and I love ya !!!!

THANKS!! I could use that hug today. Been one of those days.  I hope you had a great Easter!

Misty You Are GLOWING! I know most people don't try to intentionally hurt our feelings.  Sometimes it seems because a lot of us have endured years of verbal abuse either as a child or adult we are a little more sensitive to it.  I know one time I had lost a lot of weight looked good and someone I didn't even know said hey Big Guy! I know this guy probable calls everybody Big Guy! But that bugged me for a couple days thinking I worked my butt off was about 180 lbs and he's calling me Big Guy!  I think it's because it takes along time to see ourselves as thin and in control. At the last Lunch Bunch I sat with Cindy from AL. and she said just now after being out over 5 years she can see herself as thin and healthy.  Take it as a challenge to grow past that chubby girl of yesterday and know your thin, your healthy and your delivering a healthy baby.  Hope this helps.   Bob

Thanks Bob! I do think I just take things harder now a days. Instead of getting angry, I get hurt. But I really should not get either and just let it go. Deep down I know it is not intentional. I just wish people were more considerate. But you are right, I know the truth about me and who I am so I have to see that and forget the comments. It is a definite challenge but I am up for it!

Give us her name and number and what kind of car she drives.  We will more than glady take care of your boss and her little pretties too...  just like the wicked witch would say on Wizard of Oz... That is not nice at all...  you have worked very hard to lose weight and though I do not know what its like to be pregnant, I can only try to imagine how hard its been gaining a little weight back, ALL tummy though!!!  But also have it be the happiest time in your life as you want a child so much.  Is that what they call bitter sweet?  We love you!  I dont want to see you cry.

Hehehe. I knew I could count on you to cheer me up! Thanks!  I am over it now. I just needed to get it out. I am done crying about it. Actually, thinking about it now makes more more angry about how insensitive people can be. For now, I will just chalk it up to speaking without thinking. Afterall, I still have a ways to go and I am sure it will come up agian. Hopefully, I can learn from it and be strong enough not to let it get to me like this.

Ok, I'm with Melinda.  It's time for a little midnight haunting and I'm game.  Who do these people think they are?  Yes, Bob, most people wouldn't go out of their way to hurt another individual intentionally, but there are some folks out there that take their brain out before they speak - hence all you ever hear out of their mouths is "stupid-speak".  Those individuals, I believe, have low self-esteem and will do whatever it takes to make themselves feel better.  Misty, hang in there.  As the others have said, you are not fat, chubby, or overweight.  You are encountering one of the most beautiful events in God's creation and your body is preparing to provide you with a healthy baby.  You are doing all the right things and when you have your baby, you will continue to do all the right things to get back where you want to be.  If after your little one arrives and these folks are still speaking "stupid" let me and Melind know and we will certainly take care of them for you.  We are a family on this site and we support each other no matter what.  Be strong and don't trivialize how you feel - you are validated.

Hey heard Tanya Harding is in town. Melinda, Wendy, and Tanya Harding now theirs your posse!Tanya can beat her up, Wendy can pray for a speed recover and Melinda can fix her a espresso!Name With Held For my Own Safety! AKA Chicken *%$&.

HI sweetie, sorry they are so cruel....Don''t they realize that words hurt. They need to learn how to talk to folks with love and care. You don't under any reason what so ever call anyone fat. That is plain UGLY...... A lady that is pregnant, is glowing ..And you are gorgeous and don't let anyone ever tell you any different!!!! MySpace Comments & MySpace Layouts Hugs and Luv Barb