Frustrated about Company/church Fruit baskets

Not 1 but 2 different occaisions.   1.  Church knows i'm going for gastric bypass , but the few that are in charge of gifts for illnesses.. well I guess they didnt know.  Although they got me an excellent Book to read, which was a devotional, they managed to get me a fruit basket of all things.  Of course.. wife tells them to keep it at the church for someone else so it can be of use (her diet she's on doesnt include much fruit). 2. Work knew up front in HR that I was having WLS.  They finally decide to send me something from the florist, about 4 days too late.. and when we go pick it up.. LOW AND BEHOLD!.. Fruit basket loaded with Chips, trail mix.. mixed nuts.. In shell peanuts.. CANDY... and.. fruit..  Maybe i'm taking it wrong.. but it's very frustrating to see stuff like that, knowing full well I cannot have it probably any time or even in the future.  Is it me?  I know that the liquid phase is really boring and i'm desiring something else (Broth or thinking of broth makes my stomach turn.  I just dont want it). On a side note.. what did you do when your spouse (who has to eat) eats.  Do you leave the room.. wait for the them to finish... use willpower to get past it, or what? Sharon is feeling quite guilty of eating in front of me, almost to the point of going without food.. which I don't want her to do.  I told her it was ok.. and to eat, but my sense of smell keeps getting to me, like... hey those poached eggs and sausages SURE SMELL GOOD... but i'm not hungry.. I don't know what I'm saying actually.. maybe on the frustrated side because of the lack of variet of liquids.  I did have her drop by the Bariatric Doctor's office and get me some fruit drink/protein packets... Mixed with 8oz of water.. provides 15g of protein.  My Councelor said if you couldnt handle broth.. try working with this.. it's not bad... sip sip sip.. and i'm at least getting some protein in. Hopefully Tuesday I will be on the liquid phase, and maybe I can get some better options besides SF jello, SF popsicles, water and this protein/juice.

Bless your heart, I am sure that Sharon is having a rough time of it too. I know soon the informative ones will start posting and you will have all the insite that you needs. It's great, you venting is a good thing, just get it out. I know my day is comin' soon and I will need the same help.  So I am here to Cheer you on. GO ROB!!! You have done exactly what I would have done. But the experts are just a post away. Sorry I couldn't be more help. Barb

Hey, smells are calorie free! But if the smells are bothering you, you may want to leave the room. I would always have something to eat (drink) when hubby ate. He too felt guilty eating in front of me at first. There was one time that the smell of his burger turned my stomach and I had to leave the room.  I knew going in to this that there were going to be times that I would desperately want to eat what I shouldn't. It takes willpower. It will get easier as you are able to add a larger variety of foods to your diet. Right now you really need to baby your pouch as it heals. BTW - the fruit baskets were definitely a less than brilliant choice. Just be glad the church isn't showing up with casseroles and cakes. The devotional sounds like an excellent choice though.

Rob. Mike's church got him a fruit basket when he had his plastic surgery.  Luckily his mom was staying with him and she ate some and took some home...  Also, people really don't know...  I remember when Mike had his surgery, someone brought over a coffee mug full of sugar free candy.  Then when it was time for me to buy him a hospital gift, I couldn't think of anything!  It was all about food!  So I boght him a large coloring book and colored markers so he could have something to do while he stayed in the hospital...  our society is just so focused on food ...  They truly do not know any better....

the first week was bad the sound of hubby eating made me want to slap him lol smake smake smake yuck but 2 weeks later now it don't bother me and i banned all soda or carbonated things from the house.

Real simple...not easy!   Home:  Not a problem, I just ate in the other room.  If I could smell it, I walked outside. Work:  Totally different situation!  It was terrible.  We celebrate birthdays every month, and the girl who makes cakes is an award winning cake maker!  UGH!!!!  That along with all the good foods everyone makes is terrible.  Although everyone I work with really is sympathetic to my feelings ( they will be eating something and making sounds of Ecstasy, and then sincerely apologize) it stills makes it hard! Hang in there buddy!  It gets easier everyday!

Bless your heart, I can't imagine going through this one.  When I was in the hospital, my friends and family knew I couldn't have foods like this and all of the brought cards and flowers.  I had trouble with smells but only the first month out.  I do remember the hospital staff though bringing in my first meal to me after they said it was ok to eat.  They had sugar packets and foods that weren't sugar free.  Thank goodness I had my family there to address that issue.  If you do get fruit baskets or given things that you can't eat, just give offer it to family.  Maybe that will work.  Good luck!

o.k. you are going to hate me, but how wonderful that you have a church family who loves you, cares for you, and just doesn't understand...take the fruit to a nursing home, or a hospital.  Thank you church family THEN EDUCATE THEM ;0 THEY WILL UNDERSTAND. I UNDERSTAND ABOUT THE OTHER PEOPLE EATING, but this is my journey and I CHOSE THIS WAY.  I have support, but I pray I don't try make them feel bad for me, cause I will be getting a second chance.  God Loves you,  Joyce