Pouring out my guts!! Sorry!

 

It has been three weeks since my neck and face lift.  I am so happy with the out come.  For the first time in my life, I feel attractive.  This is not a brag.  This is really the truth.  The way that I USE to feel was unattractive and fat.  This is actually hard to set here and write, but the truth is the truth.  I know we are not suppose to judge people on the outer appearance, but we do.  We have ALL been judged by our appearance all our lifes by friends, family members, kids. strangers and the people on the airplane with the fear in thier eyes that we are going to set next to them. I remember one time while I was at my heaviest, I was sizing a childs foot and he said why are you so fat.  I thought WOW!! That hurt like hell!  My reply to him was thats a good question.  His mothers reply was don't ask people about thier disabilities.  I finished up and went in the back and actually cried.  I then realized how people viewed me, not all people, but alot of them. Now people actually "check " you out, flirt with you, hit on you and ask you out.  I have to admit that it is fun and nice to experience this, but I have to wonder what they would do if they saw my before picture.  I just want to always remember where I have come from and never go back, but also to be compassionate, supportive and most importantly, a friend to those who have not or may not take the journey we have chosen.  I am not sure why I am pouring out my guts on this subject, but somebody must need to read it.  We are all here on this board for support and I thank God for everyone on here.  Thanks for listening!

Well said!

Michael, I was raised to look aways on the inside, my grandfather was blind and my cousin has cp. And our neither my mama or my daddy's family  had alot, they were both farmers. But managed to send their kids to college  on scholarships and  made their own way. We never took things for granted and was taught from get go to love,everyone has defects those that can be seen and those that cannot. That is the way I look at the world and all that is in it . All folks are the same rather  they want to be or not.  And by the way Congrats. You have worked hard. God has gave us no right to judge only he himself has that right.  Big Ole Hugs To Ya so glad you have had a speedy recovery. Barb

Mike, I could only think of all the people you have helped you are caeing and loving and some lucky women would be blessed to have you and we all as your friends are blessed to have you and eachone of us to share this journey with.  Thank you sweetie you said it all so well. your a great person dont let anyone let you think any different, rather you were big or skinny you have a heart of gold. Thank you again your friend  Annrenee hope to have the pleasure in meeting you and the rest of the gang. have fun tonight I hope you are going and enjoying the christmas party.