Like sands through the hourglass...

…so are the days of our lives!  The hourglass is not moving to my specifications!  This is where I am today! The waiting is unbearable, not only for me, but my family also!  I am normally a very patient man.  It seems recently I’m not.  Every day I call CIGNA to see if I have an approval code.  Now I am nice when I call, but I call none the less.  And for the most part, the people at CIGNA have been nice too.  But guys, I need to be honest also.  I am angry, depressed, and just don’t feel good!  Now, before I get yelled at, I am seeing a Dr. for the depression.  I am actively working through the process.  But I am human!  I am aware of my actions around my family and other people, but I am trying to keep those in check. Keeping my attitude in line around other people is very easy.  My family, that’s another story.  It seems we only hurt the ones we love.  And that’s the case.  So, I am really working hard at not biting Beth or R.J.’s head off at any given moment.  They have been real troopers through this, and keep reminding me that it will happen!  I know it will, but just not soon enough!   

  There was a post on the main board yesterday about WLS and how males were to macho for support groups.  Well, guys I must not be macho!  I need the support that you give!  I also will support anyone who needs it…male or female!  I’m not asking for a lot, I’m just asking for the sands that are running through my hourglass to stop for a moment and give me an answer! 

Like sands through an hourglass, so are the days of our lives!  No matter what happens, we cannot control how fast or slow those sands move.  But we move on, we persevere, and like Gloria Gaynor says …”I will survive”! Keep me and my attitude in your prayers! Have a great day!

Scott, you have a way with words and you make people feel bettter,  I got your back sending you love and patients even tho I dont have them for my self I can give them to you :)  you are a good man I know Beth and RJ knows that.  You will be on the lossers bench soon.  it will happen for you I know it will. Annrenee

Scott,        When I am stressed  , it is not a pretty picture in my house either, I too am working on this when it comes to Dale and Todd.  It is strange how we feel so alone and that nobody understands where we are coming from and it is too often that our loved ones are the ones that suffer.  I am keeping you and your family in my prayers, because prayer is the one thing I can do to help and give you support is the other thing, by the way, the men that feel Support Groups are not MACHO, are complete IDIOTS  and needs a Support Group   more than others, because they obviously have major issues!!!  It is great that you are here and do depend on us when you need it, not to mention provide support for all of us when we need it.  This may be your time to lean on us, so lean all you want, because that sand will begin to move quickly, I feel a strong wind coming your way, so get ready to hold on  , GOD IS in control and he will take care of you!!!        Shelia   

 Scott hang in there buddy, you are amost there!! After being on a 6 month long diet,     I  can just imagine how frustrated you feel ..especially along with trying to get approval with the insurance co... and calling Dyer's office etc  etc..It is not a pretty picture..  I am going in to see Dr Dyer on Nov 13 at 1:30  for my one year checkup .( hate those blood tests too).I have never been to a support group in Nashville but would love to actually meet you in person ..you have such a quick mind  great sense of humor and  you even telll it like it is but very  tastefully..  I would just plain "Tell it like it is"  LoL  it is so far  for me as I am almost 150miles away from Nashville all the surgeopns (Dyer,Houston, Olsen) have a Christmas party every year too sure wish I could go..  Anyway , you have all your ducks in a row you should be hearing any day now... keep up the calling  !! Just wanted to stop by and tell you when i stop by theTennessee room once a week or so, I enjoy reading your posts!!

I will happen for you Scott, just hang in there.  In the meanwhile if you want to scream and shout, we will scream and shout with you.  I'm real good at cursing to!!

Hang in there Scott. I know how easy it is to say that. My worst flaw is how impatient I am. I am usually the one in traffic hitting the steering wheel. I do not eat at restuarants who have a wait (sigghh - I miss you olive garden) and I stay away from amusement parks because I do not like waiting in line. Yeah, I am really bad. The waiting for approval from Cigna was torture for me too. I was calling every single day. Sometimes twice a day. Everyone there was fairly nice but it was still torture for me.  So, I really do not have good advise since I didn't take any at that time. I still called and obssesed about it. I can only tell you that everything happens in its due time. Stay positive. And just consider that everytime there is no answer is better than getting a "No" as an answer.

Scott, We are all here for you, you know that. You have been such a great support and uplifting part of our board and our Tn family. I of course want you to get an approval as badly as you do. I pray you get it soon. Hang in there and keep strong!!

Hey Sweet Pea! It's time to leave this one on the alter and give it over to God.  Worry and aggitation will not help.  When I went through this I had to find a church, get on my knees and hand it over because I was not able to handle it on my own.  You know what?  It all worked out.  Your situation will work out, too. We are here if you need an outlet...just holler! Big smile! Freddie

Hang in there Scott... you're almost there. Waiting is the pitts for sure! I get very impatient too and I'm fortunate to have a hubby who has all the patience in the world for me... and I'm sure Beth and RJ feel the same. You have a great support system there for sure!

I must be the biggest wussy of 'em all b/c I need support groups...at one point, I was active in 4 groups but have stepped back since I found out I was pregnant for various reasons. At any rate, you have been a great support and I've only met you once or twice...that definitely says a lot! Your posts make me laugh for sure! lol ...speedos...*giggle*

I hope you get your approval soon. Lots of prayers are going up!

I've always heard behind every good man there stands a great women, ((( Beth))) She is wonderful and well with the rest of us cheering from the back rows, YELLING GO SCOTT!!!! YOU EVEN GOT THE WHOLE TITAN TEAM PULLEN FOR YA!!!!!!